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PTSD --- how to cope?

Jul 07, 2015 5:56 PM

I'm at a loss what to do right now.
I know that the earthquake want that bad, it only lasted a few seconds.
So why am I so scared?
Every time an object moves, I flash back to a couple days ago.
I know most people have experience with more serious trauma than this.
Why is my head reliving just a few seconds.
Over and over again, until I'm shaking with fear.
It was only a few seconds long, why am I so scared?
Obviously it wasn't serious, just scary.
No one died, no buildings fell.
Then where is this fear coming from?
I feel like it could happen again, and yeah, am earthquake could happen at any moment.
It would be random.
So why I'd the fear so strong.
I've been totally nauseous.
My sis just got home, and I love the song heaven.
"Remember remember all we fight for. ..."
It's calming me down a bit to have her here.
I'm just trying to breathe.
Is this PTSD?
I really want to get a dog, I feel so much better just having anyone around.
Even a pet makes it easier.
We are still cleaning out our house.
What can I do?
Just try to stay near people?
Avoid noises?
Distract?
Just go with it?
Cry?
I'm so tired, and at night I sometimes hear the air conditioner and wonder if another earthquake is about to hit.
It was weird, the light in my room turned on (right before the shaking), then I jerked upright as the light turned off and the shaking slammed into my senses.
Ugh.
It's ironic, when everything shook the shelves looked like the colors for the local football team.
Am I just too young to calm down, or is this going to be of term?
My family is planning on getting a dog once our house is organized.
I don't know what to do.

Jul 07, 2015 10:19 PM

Talk to your family and left them know how nervous you are feeling. Talk to your doctor too. I'll be praying for calm peace to surround you. 🙏🌼

Jul 08, 2015 1:42 AM

I will, and I've talked some about it, I'll definitely check with my doc. Thanks.

Jul 08, 2015 12:19 PM

Ferretbandit, hang in there. I get the fear of the unknown. It's good you chatted with your family about it and that you'll talk to your doctor. Try not to read too much into it. You're young but that certainly doesn't mean that you can't calm down. You've proved it by the fact that being with your sister or others or even a pet is better. The fact that the song you love can soothe you. Have some comfort in knowing that you can calm down so don't be too hard on yourself. Believe me, I understand because when I'm anxious and upset, I find it hard to calm down. I have a doctor appt on Monday morning and I'm already making myself sick over it because I have to leave the house and go there, wait and have a check up.. Big deal!?!? I'm 50 years old and something so small sets me off, you were in a small earthquake and worry about another. We had one here in NY a few years ago and it scared the shit out of me. Hang in there and know your in my prayers and you're never, ever completely alone. 💕🙏🏻🌺

Jul 08, 2015 11:21 PM

Ferretbandit it's good that you talked to yor family don't think that you are just imagining things. You went thru a stressful episode and it was very scary, hopefully your Dr can give you something to help you. Will be praying for you

Jul 10, 2015 3:44 AM

Ferrett, I am so sorry this has affected you so much. I understand how you feel. I felt terribly scared all my life for the idea that an earthquake would happen one day. I mean terrified. I am terrified of everything. What I realized is that I am terrified of the unknown. The idea that I don't know what is going to happen and that I can't control it. We like to go through life thinking that we are in control but the truth of the matter is the only thing we are in control of is how we are going to react to a situation. Once I realized I was trying to control the situation and its outcome, it helped realize what I needed to work on and it gave me comfort. Because then I realized that a lot of my fears come back to one issue. Please know, I am not saying this is you. I am just sharing my experience. I had the opposite affect in the earthquake around us. When I saw it, I realized I could handle it and that it wasn't that bad to go through, at least at the level we went through. I figured that was the type we would get because we really don't get them at all. First I have experienced in 30 years being here. I think you are having an immediate ptsd. But there is a more extensive ptsd Where people have thoughts and feeling they don't understand and after some time they work it out. This usually happens when a person gets to a point in their life where they feel safe to experience those feelings. For example, when I was a kid, I went through a flood. A person I went to school with died trying to save someone. He was successful. The flood was tragic. Wiped out roads and large bridges. My brother waited to the last minute to go home. I had to walk with a footy and a half of water that had a strong current that had rocks coming after me. People and my family had to wait on the national guard for food and a way out of town. I was terrified. I got hurt. I never dealt with it. It was until last year that hit me, 25, years later. I was watching that movie, true story about that family that was in that tsunami. The destruction inland looked like what I came from. I just let lose with tears. I couldn't stop. I didn't know why I was crying. It took me some time. But I cried hard. A couple hours went by and I realized what it was. I felt safe where I lived and with my family. But your ptsd is different. It is from a directly known trauma that was recent. I just hope things get better for you. My heart goes out for how much you are worrying. I wish someone could make you feel safe.

Jul 10, 2015 10:48 AM

Profiler, you just actually made me momentarily calm. Everything you said resonates so strongly in me. I worry ALL the time about what is going to happen instead of just being present in the moment and dealin with the here and now. I worry about what's coming up days from now and my anxiety level peaks out to the point that I think I'm going to collapse or give myself a heart attack. I have been on such high tension with everything going on in the last month that my blood pressure is very high and I'm going to the doctor Monday morning at 9:00 for my physical. Now I'm scared about that (all the crap in my head, what if something is wrong with me, etc..) I am hoping that once this week passed by, I'll be able to calm myself down and not feel so God awful. Thanks for the words of wisdom, Profiler... I'm going to keep reminding myself of them from now on!! Have a good day and I hope your pain levels are manageable. 💕🙏🏻

Jul 11, 2015 11:05 AM

I have high pain levels in addition to PTSD. This weekend I am trying to cope 2 to 5 mins at a time.

Jul 11, 2015 10:43 PM

FrostsFire, slow and steady, one moment, one hour, one day. Do whatever is best for you. Cheering for you, and prayers to! 🙏🌼

Jul 12, 2015 11:33 AM

Ferritbandit, it's ok to have those fears. Look at me, I lived in Florida for over 21 years and after 2004's hurricane season I go nut's when it starts thundering outside! For the longest time I hid in a closet until the thunderstorms were over. It was a good thing back then my kids were young because they thought it was a fun game called hide n go thunderstorms. To this day I still fear thunderstorms and I am constantly checking for alerts and the radar. Prayers go out to you!

Jul 16, 2015 7:34 AM

Here is an article you may like. It is free. Everything there is free. It is at www.jw.org you go to publications and under magazines and watchtower there is an article on how to deal with anxiety. It offers some comfort from the scriptures to go along with it that you can look up in your own copy of the bible. So when you are stressed you can go back and re read them and get some more comfort. I think you would find a lot of great information there if you would like a particular subject. They cover nature in the awakes and science. Just for the info. Hope everyone is having the best day they can

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