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Really feeling upset about my family not being with me for my appointment

Nov 03, 2015 7:58 AM

I really feel like starting a fight with my family. Not a physical one but in really want to ask them why they feel its OK to just abandon me while I'm still going through my illness. My mom feels that she is doing enough by allowing me to live with her rent free. However I feel emotional support is also important. I'm going for my first treatment therapy tomorrow in a different city . I'm not even sure of what the treatment is gonna be. And I'm being taken by a family friend I've not seen in over 6 yrs .. It hurts and im trying to practice how I'm gonna fake being happy and appriative for over five hours of a trip. I really want to know why I'm.being treated like this.

Nov 03, 2015 8:03 AM

Newfibrogirl, DON'T fake being happy about anything. Be cordial, let the family friend know that you appreciate the help and that they were willing to assist you. While you are chatting, it may very well come up about what you're feeling. Be honest.. Tell them that the lack of family emotional support is very painful. That you are not diminishing their part in helping you but it's how you feel. Like I said in another thread, I would gladly have taken you if we were in close proximity and I'd hold your hand and give you whatever support I could. Know that you have your entire pain family behind you. You're never, ever alone and you are truly cared for and very much a part of this family. I'm sending you gentle, supportive {{{Hugs}}} and my prayers that God will ease your sorrows and uplift your spirit knowing that you're not alone. Hang in there.. We're here for you no matter what!!💕🙏🏻🌻

Nov 03, 2015 8:09 AM

Thank you alwayz.. It does my heart good to know I can come here to vent.

Nov 03, 2015 8:11 AM

Anytime, sweetie... ANY time. Know that I'm with you and I'm right beside you holding your hand and giving you whatever support and strength that I can. You got this!!! 💕🙏🏻🌻

Nov 03, 2015 8:55 AM

I have had to drop alot of friends due to my fibromyalgia. My rheumatologist always told me I will find who my true friends and family are during this. Boy was that true:( I know the feeling about not having emotional support. I am so thankful for this group, because I have alot of emotional support on here. Hope you can get through this. I know it sucks:(

Nov 03, 2015 6:02 PM

Newfibrogirl, I was going to say the exact same thing AlwayZ said, about not falling behind happy. Let this family friend know you really appreciate them going with you, and ask them into the treatment area if they're willing and its allowed. And if the topic of your families support comes up, be honest. Maybe doing so will become a wake up call to your family, if this family friend decides to come to your defense with them... You never know. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers! 🙏🌼

Nov 03, 2015 6:10 PM

It is hard tho I get it. My husband takes off 2-3x a week over me or kids. We need help. Family is scattered. I put a post on Facebook and was shocked how few friends offered. I am going to do it again. We can't do this alone either. I was told that if you are unable to drive insurance must provide transport - I need to check it out.

Nov 03, 2015 8:10 PM

Newfibrogirl I pray that everything goes well with your treatment. And also I pray that everything gets better between you and your family ...

Nov 03, 2015 8:23 PM

Sorry you have to go through this without the support of your family. I don't know what I would do without the support of my mama and my husband. I am also very greatful for this pain family here. Sending prayers your way.

Nov 03, 2015 10:34 PM

New Fibro Girl I am so sorry yhat you are having to do this without the support of your family. I totally agree with Alwayz and Flappsy. Maybe this family friend can bring some inside to what is going on with your family. Don't get discouraged because you are never alone. You have God and us we are always here if you need us. Sending hugs and prayers.

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