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Nov 22, 2015 2:08 AM

Hey dude, I'm a teen, my school is pretty against censorship, and I'm pretty okay with words, if used in a constructive way.

THIS IS A COMMUNITY. My school, and here, are the two places I feel safest, and you are intentionally causing harm. Simply, why?

We have rules at school, and community meetings to address problems that come up. We have three (recently 4) Community Agreements. I think you could really apply these, and maybe they would help you be friendlier.

They are
1 Speak your truth
2 Be open to outcome
3 No shame, blame, or judgement
(4 is equity matters. If there is some video being watched, don't give everyone a seat, give the shorter people stools, so they also know what's happening, and save the front row for those of us with wheelchairs)

It's pretty simple, but holds everyone accountable for everyone. You are allowed to say "fuck this shit" on most days, but it should make a point, like in a presentation about a different experience of the world or whatever. However, someone can also tell you if they found it strange for whatever reason, like a girl in my project group who is not used to these words, because she went to a very strict no-cursing school, and didn't hear it from her parents. We also know that during confluence, you CAN NOT say it, because there are patents and district leaders who fund our school, at those events.

I don't understand why you came here. You have chronic pain? Talk to us, we'll listen, be there when the world becomes too much to bare. Don't try to test us, don't threaten us with gross religious doom.

You brought me tears today, and with the stress of being a teen at a performing school, I need to be relaxed not tense like I am right now. A lot of people have been hurt today.

Are you okay? I don't know, maybe you're just having a bad day, but tell us that, don't create hate where it didn't exist before.

Nov 22, 2015 6:56 AM

Ferretbandit, your words are both poignant and articulate!! You are a very wise young lady and your post was absolutely on the money. I don't think it could have been said better. Thank you for speaking up on behalf of the community and looking out for those of us who have created such a close knit, safe and loving place for support. I consider you all my extended family and really was offended to see the way this young man spoke and abused our members. He was foolish enough to put his phone number on another thread where a "newbie" was asking about cbd oil and I welcomed the young man and warned him of the guy that was responding to him. You are an amazing young lady, Ferretbandit and I am glad to have you in the family. Sending love and {{Hugs}}πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Nov 22, 2015 12:35 PM

I just feel like there are other places/forums for whatever he's doing, and I was a little concerned when he responded to the newbie, too.

I just feel a little sad, seeing his distancing language. Our community is growing, and were bound to have some "growing pains" from it, but we also can come out stronger. I came here because it was safer/truthful than a lot of groups I have found.

Nov 23, 2015 1:13 AM

Ferret, so much wisdom in someone so young. You are a blessing sweetie and you rock😊

Nov 23, 2015 9:53 AM

Dear Community
thanks a lot to all of you reporting the bad behavior of the above mentioned user. We meanwhile have blocked him and will soon as well remove the offending posts.
We wan't to keep this community a clean and nice space like you do as well.
All the best

Nov 23, 2015 10:44 AM

Thank you so very much!! I always welcome our "newbies" and let them know it's a safe place to be and that it's a caring and loving community family. There is no room for hurtful and vulgar people like that, my fellow pain warriors have enough stress. I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart that this has been taken care of. Now my peeps can rest easy.
All the best to you as well.

Nov 23, 2015 11:12 AM

Boy I missed all the action! Ferret you are one tough little chicky!

Nov 23, 2015 1:29 PM

I missed it but I can see what tornado that person caused. I can feel the pain in the words written and it is sad. Ferretbandit you took the high road in your post be proud, you are amazing.

Nov 23, 2015 1:44 PM

Ferretbandit did, indeed, write a very poignant post to him. She is wise beyond her years and very smart and articulate. When I addressed him I was not rude to him at all and even said I'd say a prayer for him. It was distressing when he started to attack people who did nothing to him. Even people who tried to give the benefit of the doubt were answered with vulgarity and rudeness. I have nothing against profanity.. Believe me, I have a mouth that could make a sailor blush.. I worked with men most of my life and the "f" bomb was every other word.. Well, guess which little, foul mouthed kid it rubbed off on.. HmmmπŸ€” Oh right, that would be me... LOL!! I just can't sit quiet and see someone disparage people I care about. If there was any point I came across as rude, if I offended anyone, believe me, I apologize. Love, Prayers and {{{Hugs}}} to all.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»πŸ˜Š

Nov 23, 2015 2:00 PM

I didn't get to see it but thank-you

Nov 23, 2015 6:15 PM

Believe me, it wasn't anything that you would have wanted to read!! It was rude, crude and ill mannered. I'm glad that you missed it.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Nov 23, 2015 6:34 PM

Alwayz, looks like admin finally took his first post down. So grateful for that.

Nov 23, 2015 6:54 PM

It made me sick. Our kind loving understanding community was verbally violated. I replied to Cearea when she said she was going to sleep and I felt like I partly escalated the guy by doing so. It brought her post to the top of the list and I felt real bad about it. I am sorry to Cearea for that. I was too scared to reply again. I thought it would feed him and he would fire more nasty replies. I was proud of ferritbandit. My insomnia, pain and PTSD were aggravated by the whole experience. It was midnite on west coast when it was happening. I googled his phone number he sells CBD oils on Facebook, so I had trouble understanding why he wrote in the cbd oil thread he read a lot of articles on it and didnt say he tried it. Somehow i believe he wanted to profit from us. I hope this never happens again.

Nov 23, 2015 7:05 PM

He did say he used cbd oils on another thread where he engaged a "newbie" in a conversation where the young man named AJ had some questions about them. I warned him about this other guy and not to engage him any further and I noticed then that this guy put his phone number on that thread. At least he's gone and won't be back. I must have flagged every post and then sent 4 or 5 messages to the administrator and then brought it up when the thread came up about improving the website. I know several others had also flagged him and thank God because now it's over and we don't bred to think about this person ever again. {{{Hugs}}}πŸŒ»πŸ™πŸ»

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