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Oct 03, 2016 2:27 PM

So our youngest daughter moved her stuff in on Thursday, then on Friday she brought the last suitcase and her dog. She pulled into the back yard to unload because she didn't have a leash. After unloading she pulled into the driveway, parked, then came inside to get ready for a dinner. When she went to leave her car would not crank. Great!! Needless to say she's been using mine since Friday night and we are afraid the timing "something or other" slipped and her motor is gone. Just great, because she's upside down on the loan and can't afford another! We aren't sure what will happen on the car/transportation issues. I have to have my car for appointments later this week and have appts every single week. And my hubby's car didn't want to crank this morning. He charged the battery and after awhile was able to go to work. But i thought he was going to cry... My hubby rarely cries.

Our daughter has come home with her broken heart and having to return home because she hasn't found a place she can afford. So what I thought was a messy office/grandkids playroom is a stack of endless boxes, clothes, & shoes now. She has so many shoes my hubby asked if she trying to compete with Imelda Marcos. Lol. And the stack of stuff on the patio is twice as much. And of course she brought every pot, pan, utensil, and groceries she had at her boyfriend's house. My hubby asked if she at least left him the kitchen sink. Lol!

And of course there's the 90+ lb grandpup. He's about 10 months old, and startles at any loud noise, very clingy and I'd swear ADHD. Now he and my dog bark at everything they hear; dishwasher, phone ringing, car door closing, etc. The first 24 hours he paced and paced and paced. Yesterday was a little better, and today is even better. At least without his mom here or my hubby, he's laying down when I tell him to. But he wants to play rough because that is how they did with him. I've hurt my back twice, once Saturday and again this morning too. I can't walk without the walker. I think a disc has slipped out of place and the muscles have locked up in spasms. Unfortunately I can't do things I need to for my appt with lawyer on Wednesday.
Without the walker the pup gets under my feet and in between my legs...a disaster waiting to happen.

My 18 lb furbaby does NOT like that the pup is here, so he is growling and snapping and stealing the big pups toys and bones and tries to get his food if we turn our backs. It's actually funny because the pup knows who's boss and when old grumpy dog snarls the pup jumps back real quick. In the pic the dogs are laying on a 5' x 8' rug...see their size differences!

Last but not least is my hubby who has been in a foul mood since Thursday night. He's grumbled and groaned about them being here and the inconvenience it's caused. But mostly he's fussing about the puppy and his hair all over everything. It really is awful...awful!!! I didn't know one dog could shed so much hair! We've had to vacuum every day, and the pup is terrified of the vacuum. Oh and I can't forget in the first 24 hours he peed all over the house. But the last time I caught him in the act and swatted him once with the newspaper scolding him "No, bad dog!" No accidents since. Here's very smart but I think he was stressed, and my daughter's not as laid back. I told her he's nervous because of picking up on her's and the ex tension. He's been as good if not better than my own dog, who was swatted twice last night for biting at the pup.

I reminded my hubby our daughter had no where else to go and he agreed to let her come here knowing the dog lives inside. He's already hurt and angered our daughter by repeating "he needs 3 little boys and 3 acres to live on." Not something to say to our daughter, especially repeatedly.

Before I even finished this post I got a text from my hubby, regarding our daughters car, saying, "will discuss car tonight. Not good. Catastrophic. Explain later." Just one more snafu for the last several days. Ugh!! Sorry for complaining. I hope everyone else has had a much better day! Hugs love and prayers! 🙂💕🙏🌸

Oct 03, 2016 2:57 PM

I hope venting helped you feel a little better!! 😺 That is one way I cope, having little venting sessions, normally with my husband. On days when things just aren't going well pain just makes it feel even more unbearable. You've got this! Today is just one page of the book 😉

Oct 03, 2016 3:57 PM

Sorry, meant to continue. Anyway, stress, (of which you have more than your share Flappyslady 81!) can double or triple the pain, or start it up if having a better day. Sure hope the venting helped! Hopefully, you can all do some SLOW deep breathing exercises! That helps some.

If the motor is shot on your daughter's car, maybe could get an engine from a salvage yard, or a refurbished engine?

Do you live in town so your daughter could take the bus?

Re the pup, we got a pup last spring & she barked at everything for a while. But as she got used to what is normal, she calmed down.

I had a bad start to my day - problems with my clinic saying had submitted bills, no response, & I'm being charged most, if not all of the bill, while my Medicare Advantage program says they never got the bills, etc. For some reason, (hah!) I soon had a horrible headache, & this afternoon, the barometric pressure started dropping, which caused me to max out my meds because of the lumbar pain. Aarff!

Hope some of this helps! Hugs!

Oct 05, 2016 6:49 AM

😚 Hi Flappers...sending u much love and good karma for ur daughter bless her 🤗 life can be so harsh at times... 🌹 i hope u can can find some peace soon angel 😙

Oct 05, 2016 10:44 AM

OMG, Flappsy.. so sorry so much is going "wrong" and I'm sending much love, positive vibes, {{{Hugs}}} and prayers as always!! I wish I could make it better for you. I hope the vent helped you to feel a bit better. Just know that better days are ahead for everyone. 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Oct 05, 2016 1:35 PM

Thanks to all! Other than being irritable today, and tired, I'm managing ok. My dogs the alpha...lol! Based news is my daughter's timing slipped and it killed the motor. We've got to try and find one not damaged in the salvage lots. She's on the verge of breaking I think. I'm praying nothing else goes wrong! Hugs love and prayers everyone has a good day! 🙂💕🙏🌸

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