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Jan 31, 2016 4:52 PM

I don't understand why the world has to be this way. This family whom i consider to be a part of my own has lost their mother to cancer and now just less than a year later,her son is losing his battle to the same damn disease. And I've been too sick to even go see him and now it's too late. He's got 5-6 weeks and is so unfair. I never got to say goodbye to god mother who was like a grandmother figure to me. And now the same is repeating with her son.

I just want to be normal for one time so I could have actually taken him out and been there for the family after their mom's death. My heart is breaking and I am in so much pain physically and I thought it would be easier to say goodbye to that old relationship with the abusive ex (and it is easy to say goodbye but to say it to his face is another matter.)

The world is losing a good man. And it's so unfair. He's fought through so much to be where he is, brain aneurysm, cancer before this. Why does the bad shit happen to good people? Wth is the justice in this world?

Jan 31, 2016 6:12 PM

Please don't lose hope. I know you are hurting and grieving. There is no answer to your questions,. I can only run to God, and do my best with my feelings , just keep breathing. I am so sorry . please keep talking to us. Love and Blessings, Terri

Jan 31, 2016 10:13 PM

Kitty, I'm so sorry about your friend and his mother. I now how you feel. I wasn't able to go see either my aunt not my uncle when both were dying of cancer. Both times I was sick with a contagious virus and was asked not to come around. It didn't hurt my feelings because with my own immunity I prefer sick people to start away. But I feel guilty for not being there to say goodbye.

Like Terri, I feel only God can give me peace among the storms of life. My youngest daughter's constant phrase was, "it's not fair." And I'd always tell her, "life isn't about being fair, because there are no guarantees of peace, love, and happiness. As a matter of fact God tells us there will be hard times in our lives, and that's when we should depend on him to see us through. ". Now that she's older with stepkids, she understands more what I was trying to teach her. And when I get frustrated at everything going wrong with me, she reminds me, " mom life isn't fair or easy, just hang on to your faith and Good will help you through.". Hang on to us and we will help you. Hugs, love, & prayers! 🙂🙏💕🌼

Jan 31, 2016 10:55 PM

Kitty, you coming to join the circle? Give me your Facebook name so I can friend request you

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