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scent sensitivity coping

Feb 15, 2015 1:16 PM

Hi everyone
I have major scent/chemical sensitivity and I was wondering if anyone else has this and if so, what you do to cope when you can't avoid it.
I have to spend Monday with my boyfriends family and his father is a smoker. We will be going to his parents house, which his father smokes in.
Not going is not an option and a different location is not an option. Wearing a dust mask type thing will be considered rude as will going outside every few minutes to breathe.
Any help or suggestions on how to get through the night would be much appreciated.

Feb 15, 2015 2:01 PM

Will you have a private room to sleep in? If so can you take a small air purifier for right next to your bed? Be SURE to take your own pillow so you aren't using one that has been in the house. Consider one of your older ones that needs to be replaced and not bring it back with you. You might want your own blanket and sheets too. But they'll have to be washed right away when you get home. I'm trying to brainstorm ways you can privately and respectfully protect yourself.

Feb 15, 2015 2:32 PM

We aren't staying over night but we will be in that house with him smoking for 5+ hours. My boyfriend thinks I'm crazy since i make him change the second we get home and the clothes go right in the wash. I shower when we get home but I can't convince him to shower before he goes to bed, so I have a worse sleep then usual and I have to wash all the sheets and such the next day, which is hard because he visits them often.

Feb 15, 2015 3:57 PM

Can you wear a scarf with a nice scent on it and breathe into it when you are overwhelmed?

Feb 15, 2015 4:23 PM

I haven't found a scent that doesn't bother me. And would that help the shortness of breath, dizziness and nausea?

Feb 15, 2015 5:53 PM

There are essential oils that could help with those things. But you'd need to research them for yourself. Lots of unqualified people will be happy to give you advice on the matter. But they don't know your medical history.

Feb 15, 2015 6:07 PM

Gotobef, I also am very sensitive to smells, especially smoke. I have extreme allergies. I do not apologize, nor consider myself being rude by politely asking others not to smoke in my presence, & explaining why. Nor has anyone yet been offended when told why, or when witnessing my coughing fit and/or asthma attack. Be honest, and if your boyfriend gets offended or doesn't support you then I'd suggest reexamining just what it is the two of you have in common. Sorry if that hurts you, its not meant to. But anyone who loves & cares for you will support you.

Feb 15, 2015 7:43 PM

I think the biggest problem is that I was able to handle being there before I got sick. I don't think his dad or really anyone understands how quickly I went down hill and how little it takes to make me sick. I think that there is a good possibility that they think I'm making a big deal out of nothing since I have been bugging his dad to quit since we met. So now that I'm claiming that being near his dad is making me sick it looks like I'm being dramatic and just trying to cut his family out of my life.

Feb 15, 2015 8:09 PM

Have your boyfriend go to your doctors appointment with you, and either let the soc explain &/or let him ask questions. That's what "opened the eyes" of my hubby

Feb 15, 2015 8:15 PM

Those are the reasons I encourage my husband to go with me. I can never explain things well afterward, I WANT him to ask questions AND I want him to hear it from the doctor. Makes him much more likely to help me out.

Feb 16, 2015 1:48 AM

I think I'm going to try the essential oils thing. I use Japanese Mint Oil topically when the pain gets really, really bad so I could probably do peppermint. The only problem is that the mint oils bother my boyfriend but he is willing to deal with a mild headache if it helps me deal with being in his parents house. We are going shopping tomorrow.

Feb 19, 2015 3:33 AM

Tough predicament. I have RAD so I can completely relate to this. Does your boyfriends family know this makes you sick? Sometimes just being open and honest can help. I don't think masking it with another scent would help. It is more like you need an oxygen mask. Another thought....have you tried nose plugs or maybe putting cotton balls in your nose? Good luck with this tough situation.

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