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Seeing old friends after being sick

Oct 20, 2016 2:08 PM

So as u know I've got my appointment coming up. And it's in the town I used to live for many years. I've got a lot of people still there including the ex all who express interest in seeing me whle I'm in town. And of automatically say sure. But then I think of wow it's been over two years since I've seen some of these people and physical I've changed a lot. I use a cane now I've gained so much weight and a different person in some ways. I'm nervous about it now. Has any of you ever had this situation? What did u do? Or am I just being irrational?

Oct 20, 2016 2:50 PM

I went back to the town I graduated from for the first time in over 30 years. I have really changed and I worried about seeing these friends after so long. But you know - no one cared what I looked like. It was me, the person I am, that they wanted to see. If these truly are friends I think you will find the same kind of reception I found.

Oct 20, 2016 4:44 PM

I have been where you're at Newfibrogirl. I didn't want to go to family parties because there were friends of the family that I hadn't seen in years and I've gotten so much sicker. I felt like if I went ALL I would do is be a waste of space and that I'd ruin their day. I just totally stopped going because, honestly, (and this is NOT easy for me to say), I didn't feel like I was worth seeing and things would just move forward without me... Well this year we had my folks 60th wedding anniversary party and ALL of those people I hadn't seen in 10 years ALL sought me out and hugged me and said how very much they missed me and my smile and my humor and that they missed me so much. (Now, that being said I'm crying because I still struggle with that). At any rate I don't think I was ever so surprised or touched so deeply that these people cared that I wasn't there. SO, Newfibrogirl, see whoever you can.. they WANT to see you. If not, they wouldn't ask!!! {{{Hugs}}}. OH, and you're NOT irrational, it's how you feel and now I've given you a different way to look at it... You're Welcome.. LOL!!! 😘💕

Oct 20, 2016 4:52 PM

A real friend will always be there without any judging. When you care about someone that is all that matters. I think you are psyching yourself out. That being said we all would do the exact same thing. Go hang with some friends it will all be great in the end. We all isolate ourselves way too much when we are in pain, stressed, scared, ect...

Oct 20, 2016 8:30 PM

I'm sure you guys are right. I have isolated a lot this last year. The people who have asked to see me i was very close to. So I'm gonna take you advice and enjoy reconnecting with some good friends.

Oct 21, 2016 6:30 AM

You go girl.. it's gonna be awesome to reconnect and it will help with the rest of the reason you're there. 💕😊

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