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Shaking hands

Oct 26, 2016 8:10 AM

I haven't found a way to navigate through shaking hands! I've tried offering my hand in the 'kiss my hand' way and then barely touching. I've tried saying, 'Softly', before the handshake. I'm getting tired of these big men who crush my painful hands when they meet me, but I can't figure a way around it that isn't totally rude. What works for you?

Oct 26, 2016 8:20 AM

FatiguedFighter, I understand your plight. However, from the time I was young, even though I'm female, I was always taught to give a firm handshake. Even though it's painful, if a man shakes my hand in that kiss your hand or easy way, it actually makes my skin crawl... LOL!!! I automatically go in for a handshake with force with a man. Women, I'm easier on. Wish I could help. I'm sure there will be others here that will have different suggestions. (I think going in firm provides counterpressure against the squeeze.). 💕

Oct 26, 2016 9:34 AM

I haven't figured out the handshake or the hug yet. We hug here in the South USA. I go to a church that everyone really loves each other and so each time we get together I get handshakes, hugs, pats on the back.... Most have come to understand over time that they have to be gentle but there's always a few who forget. That being said - I really hate limp handshakes. Guess that's from my upbringing. We do have a young boy - I think he is in third grade - that loves to go down each pew and shake everyone's hand. He has a limp handshake but is so darn cute I don't mind.

Oct 26, 2016 4:14 PM

Im with the firm handshake though my fingers stay stiff all the time but still 😎

Oct 26, 2016 9:02 PM

The struggle is real! 😂😂😂 I saw a guy on TV who is a germaphobe. He bumps his forearm with people instead of shaking hands. Maybe I'll pretend to be a germaphobe. Perhaps I can start wearing a brace....or do stage makeup that looks like a horrendous and contagious skin disease, like leporasy.

Oct 26, 2016 9:14 PM

Lol FatigueFighter. I was talking to a few friends tonight and one mentioned that with so many sick and flu season going strong that one church they had visited had started a new thing. No shaking hands. Instead they do a fist bump. Lol. I just got a picture of this if my church did that. Over half our congregation is 75 or older. They could start the grey head fist bump tradition. :)

Oct 26, 2016 9:57 PM

You don't have to pretend anything. Just be true to yourself and let people know that you have painful hands and shaking hurts you. If you decide to fist bump or forearm bump, just tell them it's because it's too painful for you to shake hands. {{{Hugs}}}💕😊

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