So it's all my fault now...

So today I'm.having a conversation with my sis and it was going well at first . we spoke about somethings going on with my nephew and other family things. So then we come to apoi t where she says "like you. We all know that u should not have waited so long to see a doctor. Working is good but u should have seen a doctor a long time ago'" I agreed with her on ha f and let the conversation continue on. But now as I sit in pain thinking about all we spoke about . I'm like what the heck!!!! Since when is it wrong g to want to work and do better for yourself. Yes I did neglect my health in the way of overworking and not doing regular check ups. But does that mean I deserve to have multiple tumors and non stop pain and now am not able to work. Being trapped in a body that can not perform what my brain says.
Now I know it's already.been established that my family is a little special and they tend to say thing off the wall. So I'm.not really hurt by what she said. But I am still a little taken aback by what she said. I mean would u tell any other cancer patient thst it's there fault they have cancer. This is definitely a shake your head moment.

Oh wow. Hugs

I'm so sorry your sister has no couth or consideration. You got it all! Hugs🙂💕🙏🌼

I have trouble with my sister and talking about my illness too. She thinks that if I'm positive I'll be healthier but really faking positive for everyone just hurts me and makes me feel alone.

It's important to be able to talk about what's going on with you but most people make it so hard by judging harshly or thinking they know what will fix you. I wish it were easier to talk to family and friends about these things but the only people that really get me are other people with the same/similar problems.
I'm glad we all have this place to come here for help :)

I'm just gonna call "the positivity cure" BS! Yes, a good mental attitude is helpful, but it doesn't stop genetics or freak accidents.
Anyway, I am pessimistic (partially due to inattentive ADHD + illness + perfectionism) so I'm not a good example.
However, one of my friends, even though she is older, is one of the sweetest, most willing-to-help people I have ever known.
She has various illnesses that make it hard for her to move some days, migraines, and a really sensitive stomach, but she's still optimistic.
I don't even know how.
She seems happy, but she also deals with pain like everybody here...so optimism isn't a cure.

I've also found that some people who ask how u are and seem to want to know what's going on. Only do so ,so they can use it as an opening to talk about how there minor pains hurt so bad. This is why for some people once I found out they do this. I just stay quite.

I too have a sister who has never had much wrong with her apart from shingles& flu, she thinks my fibro will go if I eat mung beans and exersize she said I should do a 500 cal a day diet, and I will be well, but with a thyroid prob too it makes it harder to loose , I give up she also blames menopause too , yet she's not menopaual

And she's 7 years older than me (51) she not had a period for a year, I've had my levels checked I'm still got eggs, any who she will go bat shit crazy on you if you turn it on her, I give up , I think you have to ignore her you can't make everyone get it , and I don't think u get it till u get it xx

Suzie..I hope your not taking her advice on the diet. 500 is to low way to low. I've had gastric bypass and have been struggling with my weight for years. I don't know why family is the hardest to get on your side.