Had a big fight with my mom.. I mentioned the ordeal in another thread. I left the house for a night. And now I've got to face going back. I'm so nervous a d of course you how a stress like that can get to u.
I know my mom has stresses and she just had stents placed in her heart but she is fine physically now. I don't feel its right I have to continue accepting her abuse simply because she is afraid.
I have lost trust in my mom however I've been living bwith her for several months and really have no where else to go. So is the trade off for a roof over my head is thstbi have to live in fear of her next snap. Or wait for the next time I wake up with her standing over me at night.
She says the reasons she get so mad is because we are taking away to many duties from her. She is referring to the cooking and cleaning of the house while she and my dad recover from serious illness. Doing thr shopping and helping get aid and assistance for my dad.
So I see the only answer is to just stop helping at all. Because the more I do the more I hurt myself and they less she appropriate it. She also says that doing those things for her is disrespectful. And I will say in this last episode she was screaming and yelling in the middle bif the parking lot at a restaurant. And yes when she begin to get loud and raise her hands. I did raise my voice. After all I'm 36 and yes she is my mother I do respect her and I've been trying to do as much as I can to help her but all I get is argument and stress.
Help please let me know your thoughts. If I'm wrong please let me know. I love my mom however I can't allow my health to continue to suffer