This is more work related than pain but the stress is causing me more pain!! There is a coworker who is just nasty to many people, and often to me. I've been in tears multiple times because of her! I'm a strong person! I'm the person who helps others fix problems. I am not a "victim". Yet, I am. I am struggling with using the word victim. I think because it's also attached to my pain issues. And because I'm often told I'm "overly" emotional because of my medical issues. I think I take less crap than I used to, not I'm overly emotional. I set firmer boundaries on what I will tolerate so I can make it through the day. And I won't tolerate being pushed to tears. I am trying to convince myself to initiate a formal complaint against this person. But to do so I have to identify as "the victim". That is so hard!! Why does standing up for myself make me a victim?? She yells, screams, slams things, is aggressive and intimidating. Not me. I just want to keep going to work as long as I can. I know I don't have many years left if my pain keeps up as it is. I just want to work and do my job. I don't want trouble. But this person attacks me. And it got worse after I was hurt. I've lost a lot of leave that I believe she doesn't file for correctly or push for it to be covered. I've let it go because I'm too tired to fight. But then my husband gets upset we lose the money (not at me but it still affects me). I already hurt so much today and filling out the complaint form is very stressful. Will I be ignored, again? Put down again. Have my medical issued blamed for my "emotional" response. I don't want to deal with this anymore! I am hoping if I push myself to formally complain, it might stop? But then again, bullies don't stop. They get sneakier...so will it help? Or hurt?