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So tired of being pushed aside

Jun 10, 2016 6:40 PM

I may be selfish but I'm so sick of people half listening to me and when I do express an issue I immediately hear how hard thing are for them. I'm.so tires of my pain and concerns being discounted and having to endure listening to non important and non relevant pains and comparison. All I really want is someone e to hear me and to help me through this. I aware of my family had any idea how often I think knofwaya to not have to wake up in pain. Or at all. I'm sure they would leave me alone..but then again maybe not I've never know my family to the selfish type til now. I've never spent this much time around them and with me being in a needy state. It's horrible. I go out in the community and people are all how sweet my mom is..i want to say. Bullshit if u only knew how we are treated at home.. ughhh... ok..I'm sorry but I'm just in a bad head space right now.

Jun 10, 2016 7:38 PM

I feel for you. The stress of dealing with your family is not helping you at all. Is there anywhere you can go for a week or so and take a break from them? I know you are there to help them out but you can't help them if you are not ok.
As for people saying how nice your mom is when she isn't behind closed doors... i totally understand how you feel on that one. I was having a bad day and ran into one of my mom's friends (luckily mom wasnt there) and the friend was telling me how wonderful my mom was and how lucky i was to have her as a mom, i couldn't help it i started laughing, and it wasn't one of those little laughs it was the going to pee myself can't stop and can't breathe laughs. I had to walk away. Most days i just roll my eyes and say nothing when people make comments like that. Luckily I don't live with either of my parents and can limit my contact. I feel really bad for you

Jun 10, 2016 8:19 PM

Thanks gotobef.. unfortunately I don't really behave many places I can go for peace and quite. I've been considering calling my GOD sister but it's been a while since I've talked to her and sadly she is one who like to pray for five hours over before she will let you rest. Ha..and I do t feel like going through that either. I've been looking into programs and different beast where I can move out on my own. So far no luck. Until then I'll just have to try and find as many ways as I can to stay away from them and to close them out. Things are getting so hard and continued frustrating with my health that I don't have the strength to put up with there mess for much longer.

Jun 12, 2016 10:25 AM

I'm sorry newfibrogirl. Sometimes family takes for granted those around them. I hope you can at least take a short walk to get away, provided you feel up to it. Walking away is the best way to handle comments or difficult people. Hugs & prayers for you! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 12, 2016 11:22 AM

Newfibrogirl you don't EVER have to be sorry for being in a bad spot and needing support!! You're not being selfish either!! I wish that there was a way that I could help you out and explain to your family what you're going through. It's so hard for people who don't go through what we do each day. I know your Mom does have pain and your Dad is so sick with his cancer that you would think they would get it!!! I don't know why they do that to you. My Mother does the same except that she doesn't suffer pain but tries to tell me not not be upset because I'll feel worse (I also think that it hurts parents to see their kids struggle and be in agony every day.. I also think that's the case in part for your family but I don't know what else). Sending you positive vibes, much love, many {{{Hugs}}} and prayers to help you through this dark time. 💕🙏🏻🌻😍

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