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Oct 25, 2016 10:55 PM

My mom expressed to me that she felt like I might be getting addicted to my pain medication long story short I had to explain to her exactly the care that I am receiving from my doctor and that I am in no way addicted to any of my medication and as a matter of fact every time I see my pain management doctor I have pain medication left over from the previous month. But my sister who is living with my mother right now until she finds her a new house to buy. Apparently my mother expressed these feelings to her as well. Mind you my sister is 44 years old and decided that she had the need to go to the rest of my family like my aunt and my cousins and tell them that I have a pill addiction and I lay in bed all day and eat pills and get high. I am absolutely livid and beyond mad because this is the exact thing that frustrates me so bad because people do not understand the pain for one and then it is people who have addiction to pills that sell them on the street that has caused the FDA to put stricter rules on obtaining pain medication so people like us who suffer and need this medication in order to have a somewhat normal daily life, it makes it hard for us to get the proper medication that we need I do not understand why people cannot just keep their mouth shut about a situation that they do not understand about secondly why can they not just educate themselves and learn and understand what it's like to live with chronic pain. Just an FYI my pain is my L4 L5 and S1 my discs are compressing down on my nerves which cause severe right leg pain numbness tingling burning and everything in between. I thought to myself today how I wish my sister could just live in my body for one day there is no way in hell she would be able to do it. Does anybody else have this problem?

Oct 26, 2016 12:44 AM

((( gentle hugs ))) Am so sorry she did this. Some people just aren't happy unless they are causing chaos in someone's life. Sad but too often true.

I don't have that situation but my mom is constantly asking when they will take me off narcotics because she is so fearful I will get aslddicted. I have tried to explain it but it goes in one ear and out the other. Its not that she doesn't understand pain but that she doesn't want me addicted. I moved back here 6 years ago to be her care giver. So I rent a room from my parents in case they need me.
Once a year, with my doctors help, I wean off my meds and give myself a few weeks (2-4) a med vacation. I just got where I don't tell her what I am taking. It's just easier for me that way.. :)

Oct 26, 2016 4:12 PM

Attach a tens machine to her thigh and calf.........turn it on full.....she'll get an idea of what it feels like😊

Oct 26, 2016 4:53 PM

Bahaha JAHMAC! My sister who is in school to be a nurse thinks that I have a problem, but I told her unless you live in my body you have no rights to those opinions of meπŸ˜†

Oct 26, 2016 10:23 PM

JAHMAC, what an awesome idea!!! I'd do that to her in a hot minute. Too funny!!! πŸ’•

Oct 26, 2016 10:41 PM

It's not healthy to goad a pain warrior!!! Lol

Oct 26, 2016 10:50 PM

That for sure Silvrrry!!! πŸ˜œπŸ˜‚πŸ˜

Oct 28, 2016 4:01 AM

Hehehe JAH... πŸ˜‰i did that to my hubby''s leg once... just to stop him bitching! πŸ€”I whacked it right up πŸ˜„till he screamed like a girl! Needless to say... he doesnt ask anymore pmsl! 😚

Oct 28, 2016 6:30 AM

Lulabel, you have me in stitches!πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†

Oct 28, 2016 2:12 PM

Tilda, I'm so sorry you're mom did this. Unfortunately no matter what there will be others that cannot understand the depth of our pain, no matter what. And if they don't suffer pain themselves it's a moot point to even discuss it with them. And sadly there is also a preinstilled prejudice, generally by the much older generations due to their own experiences or lack of with medical care, who thinks of anyone that takes any pain med as being "addicts." They grew up having to endure pain and an inability to get medical care for many various reasons. It was seen as strength to endure any pain, and weakness to seek care or medication. I'm not excusing them, but trying to explain. I've heard this from my grandparents and parents generations, and I'm 54. They grew up in a much different time than we are. I learned many years ago to ignore things said in judgement. But recently my hubby made a comment about someone being an addict and I went off on him! When I got through he apologized. I hope you can find a way to ignore them. Once you try to explain once, they don't deserve you wasting your time or energy. Just simply state, "Im not addicted, but I do depend on these medications to help me through the day. You would too of you had to live in my body."

Everyone's suggestions to let others experience pain... Hilarious & great ideas!

Hugs love and prayers for a good weekend too all! πŸ™‚πŸ’•πŸ™πŸŒΈ

Oct 28, 2016 4:16 PM

All of you are absolutely amazing and I am so very grateful that I happened upon this wonderful group of people who not only suffer from pain but take time in their daily routine and their hustle and bustle up daily life and pain just to comment and encourage one another.

UPDATE: I did have a very lengthy conversation with not only my mother but my mother-in-law and explain to them both from the very beginning of my pain Journey to where I am now I told them that I have three beautiful girls that depend on me and that is my number one job and priority. Although I have to have pain medication in order to be able to function and go about my daily life does not mean that I am an addict. I told them although my doctor prescribed me 10 milligram Norco and I am allowed to have 4 pills a day does not mean that I take that everyday I take the medication as I need it some days I will take to some days I will take three and on really bad days yes I will take for every 6 hours or so as prescribed. I told both of them that as long as I am taking my medication as prescribed and not abusing my medication then I will be ok. I also had to explain to them that not only am I on Norco but I am also on gabapentin to help with the nerve pain that shoots down my leg so Norco is just a fraction of the medication that helps me. I told them if they wanted me to stop all of my medication then they can really see what it is like for me to live in pain and I told them that I would be willing to do that just so they can see how well my medication is working for me. I told them that I would try to communicate with the two of them better as far as updates with doctors appointments and any updates from the neurosurgeon but as far as being an addict I've only told them that I wanted that conversation done with. I told them that it hurt my feelings because I felt like they thought that I was running the streets trying to find pain pills because in my mind that is what I considered an addict. So hopefully with all that said these stupid rumors can be laid to rest and if not then oh well I don't really care because I have my girls and I have my husband who see me daily and know that I am a great mother and a great wife and I am in no way abusing my medication.

Oct 28, 2016 4:20 PM

Hopefully that nipped it in the bud πŸ€— ....so proud of u for standing up for urself sweetie 😚... ur my inspiration for the day πŸ€—

Oct 28, 2016 4:22 PM

Awe thank you, don't think anyone has ever said that to me before. You're amazing yourself!! πŸ’œ

Oct 28, 2016 4:24 PM

Well today u deserve it angel ⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘

Oct 28, 2016 7:22 PM

Please do not stop all your meds hun. Even if that's what they ask of you. Stopping medications your body depends on can cause a whole other set of problems. Just because we depend on these meds to get us through the day It's not the same as being addicted. Wish more people (like my mom) could understand that.

((((( hugs )))))

Hoping the talk helped them to see the real you.

Oct 28, 2016 11:32 PM

Mimikay, i won't stop, ithe was just kind of a point I was trying to make to them.... they just don't understand that the person I am right now vs. The person without meds are completely two different people. Ido be bed bound if I was without my meds and I just don't think they got that.

Oct 29, 2016 12:14 AM

I am not sure anyone who doesn't have chronic pain can actually grasp what we go through. :(

Oct 29, 2016 12:51 AM

Amen to that!!! ❀

Oct 29, 2016 1:34 AM

Tilda, I think it took a lot to stand your ground and have a sit down with your family and set things straight. Hopefully that took care of the issue and it not raise its ugly head again!! It's hard for them to understand but you took the time and major energy to do it. Kudos to you sweetheart!!! All the best to you. {{{Hugs}}}πŸ’•πŸ˜Š

Oct 29, 2016 1:45 AM

Thank you Alwayz. πŸ’—

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