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Apr 09, 2017 9:12 PM

Having sent my daughter away was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
She was on the road to self destruction. So I decided to send her to live with her dad to try and straighten her out.
She is now seeing a psychiatrist who apparently has told her to cut me out of her life until she is ready to talk to me again. She says this will be a very long time as she has her nany and aunty to care for her now.
I am a broken, sad mum now. She blames me for everything that has gone wrong in her short 15years.
I've spent the last 24 hrs crying. I'm an emotional wreck streesed to the eyeballs. This is all making my fibro pain worse.
I also see a psychologist but its not helping me much. I don't know what to do. I feel like giving up.

Apr 10, 2017 5:49 PM

At her age she thinks she knows everything. As a mom I can tell you it does get better but not for a few years. At 15 my daughter hated me. At 15 I hated my mother. After I grew up it was all okay. My daughter and I are best friends again. The process took about 5 years. It is a process. Best of luck to you.

Apr 10, 2017 9:47 PM

The teen years are very difficult on everyone; parents, teens,...Hopefully, you can find a counsellor/psychiatrist that will mediate and not shut doors. Most kids have struggles with their parents. Don't give up. Mine started to get close to me in their 20s. And we have a good relationship.
Hang in there.

Apr 11, 2017 4:35 AM

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Just tell her you love her and will be there when she is ready. I'm sure she will come to her senses soon. In the mean time make sure to care for yourself. Maybe see some friends or family for coffee. Watch some funny movies, etc. again, you'll be in by thoughts and prayers.

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