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Stick a fork in me...I'm done.

Aug 23, 2016 12:23 PM

My stubbornness got the better of me again. Some day I'll learn that I just can't do it all and please everybody. We spent Saturday at the zoo with our three littles. Someone got frustrated with me when I suggested I might not be able to go. My pride was injured and my stubborn got the best of me. I walked all day long in the sun. We had a wonderful time, but now I'm sick, tired and in pain. I am seriously not good at backing down when I feel challenged, insulted, or like I'm going to let someone down. It's been three days of laying flat in bed and wishing I was unconscious. Ever feel like you're never gonna learn?

Aug 23, 2016 1:20 PM

Hola fatigued! since you're a MOM and of 3! I think you feel is you duty to keep on going. it hurts to see the disappointment on their faces when you say no. I too have 3 (17,16, 15)and usually they say that if i don't go, then they all stay home too, so i feel worst! I been traying to stablish priorities. I talked to my family to stablish kind of rules, what to Γ‘sk of me, but more important when! are you childrenold enough to understand that if mom is Sick hurting, She can't move or it will be worst? I have been traiding with them. if i can't take them someplace, the next time it i'll be extra special. or i'll try to have a surprise for them , like their favourite dessert. you'll know what works better for you and your family. The important thing is that you do Only what you can without pushing yourself to the limit. don't feel guilty. think that you are of no use to them on a bed hurting all over and feeling like Crap. it's better to say no 1 day , and be able to be for them the next days or Weaks If you're lucky! take a break on you! it's not your fault that you're sick. Now concentrate on been healthy and good againg! πŸ˜˜πŸ™πŸ™…

Aug 23, 2016 7:45 PM

Mammish, that is excellent advice. My kids are 19, 14, 10 & 8 - so they're old enough to understand my illness. I think the biggest problem is that my illness has become dramatically worse over the last year. We all clearly remember healthy, energetic, spontaneous mom. And we all miss her. I like the idea of trading a down day for a special treat or surprise. I'll give that a try! Thanks!!

Aug 23, 2016 8:56 PM

I'm so sorry FatiguedFighter! I understand exactly what you mean though. I hope you will start feeling better soon. Hugs love & prayers you rest well tonight!! πŸ™‚πŸ’•πŸ™πŸŒΈ

Aug 23, 2016 9:08 PM

Really glad i coul help!😊😊 some times i too, when they're not looking, put a little money on their wallet with a loving funny note. Or send them messages on wassup with things i used to tell them when they where little and they loved everything i did or say.
I forgot to tell you to not be ashamed or afraid (because of your own feelings), to ask for help. Try to let others do what you know it's not going to be significant for your family but that you know it will take a lot from you.
Take care of you! Your family needs you well! They don't need a draiver or a house maid or an enterteiner. They need YOU. and if all you can manage is a hellow, then, it has the best, loving and brigthest one! But for that, you have to have your strenght.
Hope you're betterπŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ™…πŸ™…πŸ™πŸ™

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