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Stress management and going underground

Nov 27, 2015 6:36 PM

Hi..everyone. So how was everyone's thanksgiving. Everyone full and on a sugar high?. Lol...has.. I am starting to come down from mine.
So the quet at hand now we have covered some areas of stress a d how to deal with it like coloring reading walking talking it out and so on. My deal is this. How do u management when you are forced to move into an environment where you have several adults. More specific you are an adult and have been on your own for 20+ years. You become ill a d you move home with family. I'm sure there is a point where everyone begins to experience the full house syndrome.

I believe some of you may have or be experienced this.
How do you what is essentially returning to childhood as an adult.
Also I wanted to say thank you to the group. Several weeks ago often I have felt as if I just needed to go away..not necessarily death but I've felt as if I needed to or wanted to disappear. Having to adjust my life in a direction I had no intention of going. Nothing is going the way I want it to. I've heard fromy disability attorney and she informed me my hearing is scheduled 15 months from now...yep no typo..15 freaking months. I've already been unemployed for a year on Dec 31. So now I'm told I have to stay in this situation for yet another year and a half. It's bad enough to be I'll bit do I have to be in lack in financial strife. Do I ha e to be putting g a strain on my family and friends. Do I ha e to do this. Why? I do have faith and I do believe however but right now I just feel as if I could go away be hidden.

So I say all that to say thank you to the group. As I was feeling g all those feelings and yet still do feel them. I remember this group. I remember I can alsway layy thoughts here and always get a positvt word or even when I don't feel like speaking or simply can't speak I can read how kind you are to each other. Which gives me hope. I sometimes doubt that this kind of hope really exsist.
Yet I still want my life back I want to help my family my parents. Heck I want to be able to ateast buy decent groceries for my family. I still have to feeling of just wanting to go away. Just hid from all the pain emotional and physical. Like go into a cocoon.
So with all that. Hope I've not bummed you out. I wish for the day when I can blow u away with awesome news of awesomeness.. Right now I'm just in a planning stage. Planing how to live a good life with the load of pain a d emotional strife I've been given.
Any tips advice ..?

Nov 27, 2015 6:55 PM

New, I know you are going through a hell of a lot, but I think you know what I'm going to say about it without me even saying it. We are here for you. Please remember that no matter what is going on, that we love you. Just be held. Love you.

Nov 27, 2015 8:22 PM

New fibro girl I understand where you are coming from, as a parent who has her Daughter, her fiancé, and 7 month old living with them. I know you are feeling like you are sponging off your family. It is not true parents want to take care of their children when they are in a health crisis. Not like grown children that doesn't want to work or do anything else not because they are disabled but because they think that they are owed this. This doesn't sound like you so try and not worry about this ,I imagine your parents know that if you were able that you would still be out on your on, and that they don't begrudge having you back home so that they can make sure you are getting what you need. Sending prayers and lots of hugs your way.

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