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Feb 04, 2015 7:07 AM

Let's talk about stress and increase of pain and fatigue! I had a stressful day at work and came home to stress at home and woke up to my wife being stressed and it all stresses me out! I have to work today with more stressed people! My pain has significantly gotten worse over the last few days but I can't tell these people to go away! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Feb 04, 2015 7:20 AM

Jesswoo, I feel your pain. It seems my life's been constant stress since November; mother-in-law, dad, me staying sick with URIs... my pain has been worse, I've slept worse, more migraines, and then there the rest of the family.

The only advice I can give is avoid any stressful situations you can! Like for me, my 3 unmarried sibs moved back in together; they couldn't peacefully live together before, and all tried to put me in the middle...I told them to leave me out of it this time. I told my oldest daughter who's having constant money & spouse problems, either do something to make the changes you want to happen or stop complaining & just live with it, but don't keep crying to me because the hubby won't work and they're short of money (while he gets his cigs, alcohol, etc). I help others who help themselves, but I don't enable...

Feb 04, 2015 7:55 AM

Good job Flappy! Love it. They are adults too so they can figure it out. I just sometimes really wonder if I should try to do something else less stressful for work, ya know? Being a therapist is stressful!

Feb 04, 2015 7:57 AM

I sure can relate to the stress/pain relationship. When I'm totally stressed out, my pain levels skyrocket, my hair falls out and I get worse migraines than normal. After this weekend, I've fallen asleep at about 8:00pm, wake at around 10:30pm and that's it. I tried to take a sleeping pill... Nope, no sleep for me. Now, we are expecting more snow today and then more tomorrow into Thursday and then a huge storm from Friday into Saturday which could drop another 8 inches on top of all the crap already on the ground. I usually speak to my Cousin and my very best friend each and every day! Well, I got voice mail from them both yesterday because I was so exhausted yesterday and didn't want to sit on the phone. I feel guilty I didn't speak to them and, you guessed it, more stress and pain!! Going to take my meds, accept that it is just that kind of day and stop feeling guilty while I try to take care of me and hopefully be able. I need b stop feeling like I'm a bad friend and just take car me. I hope y'all are having a good morning, that your day is less painful and that you have peace throughout as you make it through day!!

Feb 04, 2015 9:10 AM

Alwayz- geez I am the same. Even talking on the phone is too much sometimes. That's where I am at right now. 😣

Feb 05, 2015 12:35 AM

Currently trying to avoid a total nervous breakdown. I just want to run away and not deal.

Feb 05, 2015 5:44 AM

Oregonhomestead, I'm so sorry. I'm here if you want to talk. I'm not sure running away would be the best, but if you have somewhere else to go to get yourself distressed, maybe that's what you need. Praying for you!

Feb 05, 2015 8:48 AM

Oh Thank You so much...I know running away is not the answer but it is certainly tempting. If I didn't care so much about everybody else that's probably what I would do, I would never do that to my friends and family. There's just so much coming from all directions that i'm a train wreck waiting to happen. Not sure what happens next but will try to stay focused and present..thank you for throwing up that prayer for me.

Feb 05, 2015 9:17 AM

Its amazing how stress and fatigue affects us. Wish it wouldn't cause we all have stress.
I just love all you on this board. So genuinely caring and always helping with other peoples concerns. I truly wish I could take all your pain and stress away. I have always cared deeply, sometimes too much. I internalize most of my feelings and have never dealt with them in a healthy manner. Its probably part why I have so many health problems now. I got away with it when young, but I am not young anymore. Anyway, the reason for all this blabber is to tell you guys that I do care about each post. I simply am not a very good advice giver. So please don't take that as an I don't care. Because I do!! Hope you can understand.

Feb 05, 2015 9:30 AM

Jesswoo76.....I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Boy can I relate! I'm a Nurse Manager, 24/7! Trying to deal with staff, patients, home & everyone else problems, landed me in the hospital with....A course high blood pressure & migraines! Then to top it off, I have chronic shoulder pain from a going over & beyond work injury & 3 surgeries. had to make some difficult decisions, starting with changing my job. I really loved my job, but as you probably experience, it's sometimes difficult to deal with everyone else problems when you barely have a leg to stand on. Thats been almost 3 months ago, no longer need blood pressure meds, hasn't taken migraine meds either. Sorry for the long post, but wanted to show you how work can cause a domino affect & you have to sometimes reevaluate what's best for you. Maybe you can still work in your field, in a less stressful way. Find something YOU can do to help you deescalate. You definitely have some good advice on here. Good luck, saying a prayer for you.

Feb 06, 2015 7:48 AM

You guys and gals are all great! Kevmar- just wondered what job you switched too? I am seriously thinking about doing the same....

Feb 10, 2015 11:25 AM

I want to thank all of you for your caring thoughts and wanted to make sure you all know I have been reflecting on all your thoughts and advice I just haven't been onsite for a while due to the anxiety I've been having. I'm trying to hold it together and have good and bad days.

Feb 10, 2015 1:16 PM

Oregon I understand the anxiety thing all.too well. It can be paralyzing at times. I take adivan on an as need basis when I just can't take the anxiety anymore. Definitely helps. Just a thought...

Feb 10, 2015 1:49 PM

Oregonhomestead, I have anxiety too. Its not as bad as it once was; I use to fear leaving my house. I went from that to attending college and jobs where I actually gave public's presentations. Now I'm swinging back the other way again, but not too severely. My doc gives me Tranxene for it. Praying for you!

Feb 11, 2015 8:06 AM

Anxiety and depression go hand in hand with any type of chronic pain illness. I think it is so important for us to have a few good people we can truly talk with and share our feelings or else we will turn them inward which is no good.

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