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Suffering from ableism

Mar 07, 2016 8:18 PM

I know I shouldn't but I do anyway and ignore the warning signs of a major FLARE I can do it. I don't need help. I don't need a break. I can push through. I don't want to be stared at or pitied or perceived as helpless. I'm having to learn To ask for help, to take a break, to say no, to admit that I can't or shouldn't, not push too much. I'm suffering from ableism I don't know what to do I'm so strong willed to the point of self destruction. I'm my own worse enemy. How do you combat this evil internal ableism?

Mar 07, 2016 8:27 PM

When you figure it out can you let me know? I do the same thing

Mar 07, 2016 8:30 PM

I don't know a d I know thsts not the answer you want. I was just have a similar conversation with another member here. And I know for me I've always put others before myself. And I've always been the employee to push through. For example all the male employees wanted to leave early so I volunteer to stay and help clean which me t lifting an iindustrial oven. And I would go home crying in pain. What we have to do I agree and to promise ourselves that we will put ourselves first.

Mar 07, 2016 8:36 PM

Yes I agree and not to Feel guilty for doing do! I had to use a wheel chair for my first family outing in years and it was tough for me. My family was very supportive and all but I had to effortly not think too much on it or make eye contact with people, the stares etc but I needed it and I used it this time. To help me because I needed it! And I have to know I don't need to apologize for it feel bad it awkward.

Mar 07, 2016 8:40 PM

I feel the same way when I use the chair at Walmart or big stores. I feel like I'm being judged. But I'm getting to a point where I don't care. I still try not to make eye contact because I fear what may be said. But like you I need it. It helps me do what I have to do. And keeps me from falling out in the stores.. So you are welcome to join us in our agreement ✋ ..high five and your in...lol

Mar 07, 2016 8:44 PM

I'll live my life for me giving myself permission to be first once in a while darn it! I hope I get to that point too soon so I can alleviate my pain by the end of the day.

Mar 09, 2016 9:35 AM

Dreams29.. In keeping with our agreement. I'm Makeing a step to care for myself. I'm going out for a walk. I'm having a hard morning feel really dry and sluggish but I'm gonna go what are u doing today to care for u? Maybe we could start a new thread so we can have other join us? What so u think?

Mar 09, 2016 9:01 PM

I am in pain all the time I was one of this that work all time all my life now I one of this that can not walk down the street one block just stop were I am at wish did not have to walk on more just pain all the time I have kids wish I do more for them

Mar 10, 2016 3:49 PM

Defiantly! I took a hot shower and got out off work early just to come home and nap!

Mar 10, 2016 3:51 PM

I understand Sadmom I sadly don't exercise going to work is tough enough. And I have to to survive... I'm sure they appreciate everything you are to them

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