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Apr 16, 2016 6:44 PM

Do you guys remember the person who commented frequently about commuting suicide? Shehaze or something? Has anyone spoke to her? I'm just curious as haven't seen a post in a while and thinking the worst! 😕

Apr 16, 2016 7:04 PM

I'm new but haven't seen any post

Apr 16, 2016 7:07 PM

Just saw her threatening again under a post entitled introductions

Apr 16, 2016 7:08 PM

Her comment was made today

Apr 16, 2016 9:13 PM

I'm honestly not sure. If someone is going to do it, they usually won't tell anyone. I think she's suffering and needs help we can't give. But don't usually announce that going to do it because they don't want to be stopped.

Apr 16, 2016 9:21 PM

I just have a feeling it's not genuine at all. It's someone messing with this whole forum. We are all here to help each other and we are all suffering. Some of us maybe not all of us have been in that dark place and have attempted suicide and/or lost someone to suicide and if this person finds it amusing to post things like that I find it sick. It's upsetting to some people doesn't she realise that?

Apr 16, 2016 9:26 PM

I agree. I'm not responding because what do you say. If she does do it we could live with the guilt of what we said. And she will do it no matter what we say if she's serious about it. It can be draining for the rest of us to stress about it so I'm choosing not too.

Apr 16, 2016 9:36 PM

If I see it again I am calling the police. Surely they can track an IP address from where the messages are coming from x

Apr 16, 2016 9:45 PM

Good idea. Let me know. I'm in Canada so I don't know that I could do much.

Apr 16, 2016 9:52 PM

It does. Are you okay?

Apr 16, 2016 10:38 PM

Wow. I feel suicidal quite often and think about it every day. It's a complete myth that because someone mentions it they're not serious. Doesn't mean people aren't jerks and trolls but this a forum where people are struggling, some more than others. I am not saying anyone is responsible for saving this person's life but I sure wouldn't want anyone saying I was being dis ingenuine

Apr 16, 2016 10:41 PM

if I did. Truth is I stopped posting for the most part because
I am so overcome with despondency over unending health problems and current life circumstances, and I don't come by faith easily these days though I do my best. Sometimes it feels like it is indeed too much. My prayers are with this person and anyone else feeling same.

Apr 16, 2016 10:55 PM

MarseMouse I understand what you are saying but many many people have tried to hell this person and they just keep repeating I'm going to kill myself. If ur posting it then u want help so it's been offered and ignored but the same threats continue. What do they want is to do? It is starting to anger me. I attempted suicide before and thank goodness I failed but seeing these posts time and time again is just getting a bit much and upsetting for many people not just me and I'm sorry if I sound heartless I don't mean to but I just don't believe it anymore. I have been there and if u mean it u go and do it and if u don't then u are crying out for help and u take it when it's offered - it wasn't taken. Everyone who has tried to help has been ignored. If it is genuine then the police can find them and help them, if it's not they can find them and put a stop to it.

Apr 16, 2016 11:10 PM

I have been severely suicidal all my life because of all the pain i have

Apr 16, 2016 11:19 PM

SheHaze67 then you need to speak to someone. A professional who can help you try and find ways to cope!! Posting on this forum that you are going to kill yourself isn't going to help you as we don't know who you are or anything. I hadn't seen a post from you in a while and I thought the worst! Everyone on this forum is here if you need to talk but you need to open up and really let it all out to a professional. You cannot go on like this!! It's stressing and upsetting others as no one can do anything to help you. I have seen them all try and you just repeat I'm going to kill myself! Why did you join this forum? What did you want to acheive from it? Clearly you want to talk or have someone talk you out of suicide so talk to us! We are all here but there is only so much we can do. A Professional is needed! It doesn't make u crazy or insane it just means u need someone to listen to you and help you want to live your life!!

Apr 17, 2016 3:39 AM

I usually never share anything personal that someone shares with me but... I reached out to her via personal message because I feel like we have all been desperate and felt that we did not have any options. Pain can be a real nasty bitch and screw with your head from time to time. Anyway after 3 constant hours of attempting to extract info from someone begging for help, it seems that it was all an attention scam. If someone really wants help they will seek it and accept it. My conclusion is that this was all an attempt to be disruptive to our group and get attention not a serious request for help or guidance. Sorry to be harsh but that was a complete waste of my time and energy. I will always be available, even on my own bad days but this seemed like some twisted game. She has the tools and support if she really wants help. Thank you to all that jumped in to attempt to assist.

Apr 17, 2016 3:53 AM

No not harsh that's just the way it is hey. It just proves how solid this community is 😀

Apr 17, 2016 4:04 AM

LMB I think most people think the same way as us but don't want to say it. x

Apr 17, 2016 4:36 AM

I have contemplated suicide off and in throughout my whole life and when I have, I have talked about it because I knew I needed help. The idea that people who are suicidal don't discuss it if they are serious is asinine.

I know the person you are referring to and given what I have seen she seems to come online, make a statement about it and then disappear without responding to or accepting any help that is offered to her (or maybe I am bonkers and its on another support site altogether lol) Anyway, she seems to enjoy coming here, getting everyone riled up and then disappearing for awhile. She doesnt actually accept help offered or discuss things with anyone. Its like she posts and then sits back and watches the drama unfold and I dont have time for people like that.

Apr 17, 2016 4:43 AM

Myfairladies Exactly hun!! I'm so glad people are voicing this now. I have thought it for so long but didn't want to sound harsh but then I worried it was real as I hadn't seen a post in a while and then found out it's still happening and still at the same stage no talking, just ignoring people's comforting comments and continuing to write the same thing and I just had enough. I had a short bit of worry for a total stranger and I now see it as I was right all along. It's a joke to her/him! x

Apr 17, 2016 7:49 AM

I hadn't said anything about it because seeing it the first few times annoyed me, but I pretty much knew what said person was doing. I've been on social media long enough to know when someone's fucking around with people.

If by chance this person isn't trolling around the forum, then they really need to help themselves. Get help from professionals.

Apr 17, 2016 7:59 AM

In a way I hope it is just someone trolling as that would mean the isn't a life at risk here but to come on and mess with people's heads like that is pretty sick and in a way a bit evil. Either way this person needs help. If it's a troll they need help if they find it amusing to play with people like that. xx

Apr 17, 2016 8:02 AM

Unfortunately, there's a lot of people like that out there. Especially on the Internet, where they can hide their faces. It sucks.

Apr 17, 2016 8:04 AM

Well let's just hope they don't really mean it one day and no one takes notice because of 'the boy who cried Wolf'.... xx

Apr 17, 2016 9:23 AM

Glad things have been figured out. I've in that dark place too. Let's all just move on and keep looking out for each other and not give this threat any more of our energy.

Apr 17, 2016 9:56 AM

Gibber- I agree! :) Let's just all put this to bed, finally.

Apr 17, 2016 12:32 PM

Agree totally!! Hope everyone is as well as can be today. xxx

Apr 17, 2016 1:16 PM

Same to you SG!

Apr 17, 2016 1:59 PM

I had private messages then and every suggestion I gave then they would give an excuse to deny the help. I dont feel like Its real because as a person who has attempted and suffered with severe self harm. I did everything I could to hide it, and time I tried to commit suicide and failed I his it as well as possible. I do believe they might have some type of border line personality disorder which causes some one to "crave" attebtion, wheather it be bad or good. They do need help, but not for this forum, just my opinion though.

Apr 17, 2016 2:02 PM

And I agree with you LMB same thing happened with me when I tried talking to then

Apr 17, 2016 2:03 PM

How do u private message on here?? xx

Apr 17, 2016 2:05 PM

You can only do it of you have the pain compainion app which is only for andrios

Apr 17, 2016 3:10 PM

I used to volunteer Crisis Line. In my experience, there is no one why for people contemplating suicide to behave. There are also people who are not suicidal who say they are for other reasons.

I think in a case where we can't confirm someone's safety, we should have a way to report the poster in order for them to be located, and a welfare check done on them. I'm not saying we need to report everyone who comes on feeling suicidal. If a poster says they're thinking about suicide, but makes assurances they're either ok, or they'll reach out for help before following through, then we take them at their word. But, for someone who posts something and disappears, or someone who won't commit to safety, we follow through and report.

I'm okay with someone being mad at me for ruining their suicide, because they're alive to be angry with me. I'm okay with a troll having the police show up at their door to check on their welfare. I don't like wasting police time, and any troll will here that from local authorities, but I'd rather that and be wrong.

What is the best way to report on an international site like this, anyhow?

Apr 16, 2018 2:30 PM

Please never underestimate what a person will do. I have had fibro since before they knew what it was, they called it myositis. Told me it would be a life long illness. I have had every test, MRI'S, blood work, cardiac tests, nerve conduction studies and medications so many I can't remember them all. I'm tired. I've fought to raise my children and I have, all without narcotics. My body and mind are tired. I've talked to my family about this. I believe we all have the right to make a decision about our life with chronic diseases and pain. I haven't given up yet. But it's time for relief. My nervous system is now as involved as the muscle pain. I'm going to ask for long acting pain meds and a referral to a fibro clinic research program. If research meds took my life, well at least I tried. This girl may be expressing her feelings in "safe" place. People do discuss and make plans to take their life. As a RN of 35 years I've seen it happen. Let's not judge yet 😳

Apr 18, 2018 12:24 AM

I have not seen any post like that but unless we feel exactly what she is feeling, I don't think we could decide if it's genuine or not or even should try to decide that. There are helplines for people who need help dealing with the crapload of stuff none of us can understand enough to know how to help. Anyone who sees the posts or knows which post to respond to, please please pass on the info. Also, with fibro, it's up to everyone just to trust our word for it, it sucks but sometimes the most severe pain is invisible and impossible to be understood by others.

Apr 25, 2018 10:41 AM

I survive the suicide death of my son and work in prevention. Each and every comment should be taken seriously. You'd be surprised how many people tell others. Each time they also gain courage, in my opinion.

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