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Surgery update with a surprise twist

Nov 08, 2016 4:08 PM

So, it's official,my surgery date will be November 21@5am. It's finally feels real. And now getting all thr last minute things in line and order.
Now on to my sister. As my uncle and aunt found out what she has done. The reaction was out rage. My uncle saying why does she have to have it now. My aunt who live in NY was so angry that she is thinking of getting on a plane to come here. I don't know what all my aunt said to mom but I do know that it's a consistent tone of disappointment .
Mom and I just had a talk about the plans for the trip. And as I knew she would she wants to come straight home after I'm discharged we did thst the last time against dr recommendation and I told here that i do not want to thst this time. This surgery is much bigger and more dangerous and riding 3 hours with a fresh cut breast bone down in a super small ass car is not a good idea. Mom gets very jittery and nervous and she needs someone with her. We need a larger car bit if my sister does not go and drive her car we have no choice.
But with all that at least I have my date and its gonna be done.

Nov 08, 2016 9:14 PM

Great you have the date for the op, you know it's not that far off so you can get things ready and in order.
At least your aunt and uncle understand the importance of this op and are telling your mum (sorry but I don't know what procedure your sister is having but it doesn't sound as important as yours).
Would it even be wise driving the 3 hours in any size car whether it be big or small?
it sounds like your mum and sister don't really understand how big and important this is.
Also will they understand that having the tumours taken out and the hysterectomy means you won't be able to lift anything, do anything and drive anywhere for about 6 weeks or so depending on your recovery?
Sending you positive vibes and prayers that your mum and sister understand the magnitude of this op xxx

Nov 08, 2016 9:44 PM

Yes... I still can't understand what's happening with my family. I am very thankful to GOD for my aunt and uncle's. It was them thst have helped to give my mom the most understanding on my situation. As far as the car yes, any car is gonna be terrible. But the small car we have is in the way thst its only big enough for people. not any extra space to set up with pillows and what not. my sisters car is a bigger sedan with better shocks . But there is still a few days to get things in order.

Nov 09, 2016 2:04 AM

Congratulations on finally having a date! I'm sorry your family drama hasn't resolved itself but I'm glad you have some people in your corner!

Nov 09, 2016 8:27 AM

Newfibrogirl, I'm so glad you have your date and the support from your Aunt & Uncle. Is it possible to rent a bigger car, or maybe borrow/swap off with another family members car (Uncle, cousin... Not the sisters).

Ask your doctor to do this as same day surgery, where you stay overnight but are discharged before 24 hours. That way you can rest well the first night, and if necessary they can keep you another night or so. Hugs love & prayers everything works out to less stress for you, and you have a speedy recovery! I know what you're facing, and you need all the support and strength! 🙂💕🙏🌸

Nov 09, 2016 9:47 AM

Thanks guys, as I'm understanding the doctor's gonna keep me at least two days maybe three. Simply because of the scope of what she gonna have to do. We are considering getting a different car. My uncle has a extended cab truck but we can't figure out how to get my shirt butt in that big truck. Lol. But as crazy as parts of this situation is. I feel somehow it's gonna work out. I really need it to work out.

Nov 09, 2016 12:27 PM

It will work out. And your surgery will turn out to bring you more pain relief than you expect, after recovery of course. Hugs love & prayers sweet friend! 🙂💕🙏🌸

Nov 09, 2016 3:41 PM

Thanks flappys, I was just having a conversation with mom. Asking her what will it be like? She has never endured this so she does not know. Can u give me a little insight on what I might could expect afterwards.

Nov 09, 2016 7:47 PM

You'll have restrictions on bending, stooping and lifting for awhile. The first 4-6 weeks follow the post op instructions to a T, for best results. I couldn't lay flat for awhile because it was too painful to roll over or sit up. I had a wedge pillow and several pillows. Be careful not to get constipated; hydrate & Colace (or what's recommended). When you can walk as much as you can, to keep gas moving and to keep from getting weak. Retain as much strength as you can; baby steps if necessary. Be patient with yourself. The tumors didn't make you sick overnight, and it will take time to recover fully. I'm praying you'll have no complications. Whatever they do you are going to be fine, because you are strong, a fighter, & a winner! 🙂💕🙏🌸

Nov 16, 2016 10:18 PM

Thank you flappys for thr information. The day is coming up fast and I'm trying to just focus on each day. But I hate to be unprepared... ha..

Nov 17, 2016 5:27 AM

Glad you have a date! I am hopeful that you will get some control over your pain! Many beautiful sunrises ahead! Don't allow others to rain on your parade!

Nov 17, 2016 10:18 AM

I had a few things that helped .. I was not allowed to bend at the waist for 3 months .. I loved my grabber and my sock putter onner was helpful.
Constipation fer sure is an issue ... Great advice from Flappy.
Sending healing thoughts!

Nov 17, 2016 10:26 AM

Thsts a great tip. I'm sure I can find one of those somewhere. I'm mostly concerned about the tumors on my pelvis. The doctor has already mentioned more physical therapy. How bad will the pain be? I know it's probably dependant on the person. But still I read that stand should be limited. Is thst something you experienced? It says if resting be sure to be laying down not sitting. And limit standing the first few weeks.

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