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Tackling stress

May 30, 2016 2:00 AM

I seem to be attacked by many different stressful situations lately and being unwell means i can't effectively deal with them. How do you manage your stressful situations and any eg of them would be helpful. One being neighbours picking on me easy target. Gp practice blocked me from making appointments and seem very rude. If its not one thing its always another. If its not family issues to do,with,the illness its some other stress. Any tips and skills would be appreciated. Im cone to stand still and trying to stay n hiding to recuperate. Hope,you,all have a stress free day 😊

May 30, 2016 7:02 AM

PlasticIg6, I am sorry to hear you feel trapped. It is difficult to be sick and handle stress. I have lots of anxiety going on right now. I have been really sick and feel like I can't deal with lots of stuff. Many times throughout the day I feel like I'm over my head. I just need some compassion and for those in my life that cause me frustration out of my life right now. If I can't maybe lower my standards. With the treatments I have been on and of since October 2016. I am worn out physically and mentally. My anxiety is so bad that I barely go out of house, just to my mental health worker appointments.
I hear your frustration. I hope that you can give yourself a little break every once in a while to take a vacation from all this chaos. My mini vacation is looking at a picture book,colouring a medala, listen to something funny, pat my dog or cat, meditate, soak in tub, have a rest at noon.
Please be kind to yourself. Beets.

May 30, 2016 10:12 AM

PlastIclg6, it seems you are looking in my window. I have people in my life I am convinced are causing me stress on purpose and know what stress does to my illness and pain level. I am convinced they do it on purpose with the desire to take me out of this world. I keep saying " I am sick" and they keep right on causing stress as if it were a knife to be shoved in deeper into my heart and twisted deeper and deeper into my chest. As they blurt out " don't mean to cause you stress". They have the control...and as I try to walk away they won't let go... They have a tight hold and they won't let me get away. So as Beets suggest I try to go to my happy place and do my happy activity but their behavior or damaging words play over and over in my head which makes my escape ineffective. There should be an island we could go to stress free that those stressful folks can't come on and we could stay as long as we want and could come and go as we please. In the meantime.... Back to reality. A therapist suggested blowing bubbles. And don't forget the naps!

May 30, 2016 2:59 PM

Plasticlg6, I am so sorry you're under so much stress right now. Our chronic pain issues are hard enough to deal with without other people purposely making things harder on us. Why has your PCP blocked you from making appts? I didn't know that was even possible. Can you change PCP's? I sure would if it were me.

I've been under a lot of medical stress, multiple issues, along with my dad & sister having health problems. Always having been a caretaker, I'm unable to help them, and that makes me feel awful. But needing surgery I can't afford to let the stress get the best of me. I use relaxation techniques, warm showers, gentle walks & stretches, comedy TV, reading, & music, along with playing mind challenging games, which help me to stay in control. And my faith is my biggest help. I try and prioritize what I'm facing and tackle it all one at a time; one day, one thing, one hour, one step at a time. Hugs & prayers you will find a way to cope better through the stress you are under! 🙂💕🙏🌼

May 30, 2016 6:21 PM

I've been away from this board for awhile because of the unbearable stress that I've been under. While I understand that stress has a profound impact on our already questionable health, it exists in everyday life. I've had a neighbor who has terrorized me for a year. Guess what, she is in her 70s! I am now a care giver for my next door neighbor who has dementia, until they get her placed. I looked at some of my recent medical records and noted that I have more than 30 diagnoses. Experiencing financial and other problems as well. I'm taking time for myself, away from people who either don't understand or care about my physical ailments. I have four small garden areas and fixed them up as well as I could. The fourth are is for vegetables. This is my haven. I enjoy it to the fullest. Please try to find something, a hobby, that you love and immerse yourself in it. It won't take the pain away or cure your illnesses, but it will reduce the stress and you can feel somewhat better.

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