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Oct 31, 2014 5:19 PM

While driving home from school in a lot of pain, I found myself listing all of the negatives pain has created in my life. I can't go to all of my precious granddaughter's softball games. I haven't been able to pick her up since she was 3 (she is now 7), I can't sit in a car long enough to visit my daughter and son-in-law, I can't cook my awesome Brunswick Stew without help or doing it over several days. I have totally lost my taste for wine and Bushwhackers!

I finally got home and was a mess due to pain and pity! And my husband met me at the door, taking my Coke and a bag out of my hands. He then asked what I needed, if I wanted to lie down or sit down. He proudly showed me the Halloween candy he had bought, along with 2 gift bags of Halloween fun & sugar for our granddaughter and her best friend.

I didn't let him see my face when he showed me the windows he washed today. He then asked if I was going to want supper tonight, and when I said yes, he refused to tell me what he is cooking, as he wants to surprise me! Yesterday he pulled out the washer/dryer & fridge and cleaned behind them.

A couple very dear to us is coming to visit in a couple of weeks, and I can't even dust! He has taken a week's vacation to clean house and get ready for them.

So yes, I reminded myself, my life is awful in so many ways. But I have a husband of 33 years who is still making me fall a little more in love with him each day. Where I see myself as a useless and grumpy, whiny lump, he sees a chance to take care of me and show me his heart.

I've just been called to supper! Can't wait to see what he has waiting for me. But I know that I will walk in this time with a smile on my face and in my eyes instead of my "Pity Party" face I brought home to him 2 hours ago.

Oct 31, 2014 8:15 PM

What a sweet, loving husband you have!! That's is so wonderful

Oct 31, 2014 8:55 PM

I didn't think there was a man alive out there who was as sweet and loving as yours is to you! You certainly do have a reason to be thankful despite your pain. My husband does not understand my pain at all. I am all alone with this thing called fibro

Oct 31, 2014 9:46 PM

Thinking of you Blessed xxx I'm free to chat anytime xxx

Oct 31, 2014 9:55 PM

Reading several of the posts reminded me of just how blessed I am. And I don't want to take him for granted. Thanks for letting me share a different aspect of my daily life, not just the negatives I've been focused on lately.

Nov 02, 2014 1:30 AM

you are so lucky. you sound more active than I am. I'm 27.....ugh.

Nov 02, 2014 8:59 PM

You are so lucky....my spouse is leaving me. I know it's due to my illness. I've gained weight and can't do what I used to. I'm so devastated he is leaving our family. I'm happy to hear there are people out there who understand........

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