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May 06, 2016 4:44 AM

"Maybe if you talk about your pain less it won't hurt as much" is this a load of rubbish or is there some logic there?

I have damaged nerves in my neck causeing much pain and weakness, I didn't think I spoke about it too much untill my partner suggested the above. I don't go around telling everyone but there are a select few that I can vent to, I'm not going to pretend it isn't there, especially if it's particularly bad. That's how I used to handle it and would normally end with me exploding at someone and just being more upset about it. I think it helps having someone know what I'm going through.

May 06, 2016 6:37 AM

Bull hockey! You need to vent! No one knows your pain but those who go through this in life.
Right now, my whole body is in horrible pain and I feel I need to go to the hospital, meanwhile, My hubby is going fishing and here I sit, left to such it up...again
I love him, but he has no idea what this is like.

May 06, 2016 7:46 AM

Your partner maybe saying to vent to someone else for a bit other than them. They see how much pain you are in and fell very bad that they cannot do anything to take it away?. They feel bad for you!

Busholive I feel you! They told me they will not do anything until it is about to take my life because of the location and Arthritis. Do what you can to stay active as possible and not kiss the floor as much and drop stuff on your toes.
Prayers an do what is best for you.

May 06, 2016 9:49 AM

That is stupid. Not talking about it to someone makes everything worse. Especially the anxiety that comes with being in pain. Talk to us if no one else will listen πŸ˜ƒ Don't dwell on it, but don't keep it secret. If they don't know how much pain you are in they will just get more frustrated too.

May 06, 2016 3:19 PM

Everyone is in a different pain place and everyone has a different level they need to talk about things.

I would rather keep it to myself and spend time with others distracting me from my million pain issues.

I think there is some logic to not focusing on the pain. I was just telling my couselor I always have a headache I am so use to it that until I stop and focus on it I don't realize how bad it really is.

May 06, 2016 7:52 PM

Busholive, Would talking less about having diabetes make your diabetes better? No. So, why would talking less about being in pain make the pain better? You're suffering from real symptoms from a real medical issue. I get the psychology behind what he's said, but feel that ignoring pain can only be detrimental to your overall health. For years I ignored my pain, near said a word to doctors, and just got on with things. Obviously, for me, not talking about my pain didn't make my pain better. It's left me in a situation where I'm off work, in a tremendous amount of pain that cannot be reversed. So, what I'm saying is talk about what's going on, about how you're feeling.

May 06, 2016 8:00 PM

I know that if I obsess over it and become focused on pain it is worse. When I'm stressed it is MUCH worse. So I think in my case the pain pathways in my brain are used too much and if I distract myself they will fade away. I will still vent as that reduces stress, I'm just going to use more techniques to chill out my brain from telling me I'm in constant pain LOL if anyone tells me it's all in my head, I'm going to tell them CORRECT! Because that is where my brain is and it is in charge of pain no matter where it is in my body 😜 my dr has made it very clear my thoracic spine has loads of damage but I can still manage my pain somewhat using my brain and by moving.

May 07, 2016 5:40 AM

Thanks for the words of wisdom everyone πŸ˜ƒ I only got this app a few days ago and it's great to hear from people going through a similar thing. I guess it's a fine line between finding some relief by focusing on other things when I can and doing more harm than good by trying to hide what I'm going through. I'm coming out the other side of a particularly bad few days so atleast for now compared to how it was I have a some relief (and my partner gets abit of a break) 😁

May 07, 2016 10:12 AM

Busholive, I find that I don't talk about it and my stress level raises and raises until I'm sick. I have to say it when it gets real bad and then I don't feel like I'm alone and it seems to ease. Coming here and helping others helps me feel better as well because focusing on helping my peeps takes my focus off me. It's all about redirection of your brain and thoughts. It does work. I practice mindfulness and biofeedback so that I can cope as well. It's an interesting theory though. It may help some folks. Everyone is different. {{{Hugs}}}. πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»πŸ˜Š

May 07, 2016 10:04 PM

I feel I can't talk to family that they will get mad at me how does anxiety go away

May 08, 2016 6:50 AM

Fluffmeister I have found to help relive my anxiety to just stop what ever is causing the anxiety attack, take a deep breath and slowly let it out and try to refocus. Walk away if need be and grap a pillow and scream into it and breathe! Then I come back to what was causing the problem and take it in baby steps trying to take on the most important things first. Also i have learned to sence when one is about to hit and tell whoever to give me a break or take a break and roll with it and it seems to end faster than fighting it. These are some of what I try to do in between seeing my "pain management psyc therapist". They have given me suggestions on dealing with Anxiety, depression, frustration and feeling left out because of my mobility, pain,&health issues. If you are hyper ventilating take a brown paper bag and breath into it. Take a breathe and let out and slow your breathing into the bag. (Your are basically regaining control and adding CO back into the body you rushed out faster than it could regenerate). If you pass out from hyper ventilating hope someone calls rescue for you. Hope helps🌈 the family maybe frustrated because they cannot fix it and it upsets them that you are in so much pain? Have you asked them how they feel about your illness? Be prepared to deal with their response no matter what comes up.πŸ™πŸŒˆ

Can vent in here? I have found most to be nice and NOT judgemental. In here we all have our issues. πŸ’πŸŒˆπŸ™

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