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Tip of the Day

Jun 29, 2015 9:01 AM

Learn to say "no".
Failing to set personal limits or not saying "no" to too many demands will put you in overload. That will add to your already elevated stress level.
To help yourself say "no" to a persuasive friend think through the situation before you answer. Check your calendar, and weigh the alternatives. Involve family members or friends in the discussion about what to do. Would another commitment stop you from getting the rest, exercise, and relaxation you need to feel well? Would it interfere with the priorities that are high on your list? The desire to help others is commendable. But being all things to all people may be hindering your healing and making you feel resentful, tired, and depressed. It's important to take a firm stand, say "no", and mean it.

Tell us about your personal experience.

Jun 30, 2015 12:09 PM

This has been so hard. Use to be so active. I have been told by others that there is something else wrong.

Jul 14, 2015 10:25 AM

Hard to say no at work I work in a supermarket

Jul 20, 2015 9:22 PM

I have been involved in many activities and have recently had to back off some of them. I feel the guilt and failure from it. I have to contribute SOMETHING in order to feel valuable. I hate this feeling.

Aug 06, 2015 12:38 PM

Yes it's so hard to function a normal life when you feel so guilty saying no all the time it's taken me ages to say no to friends and family when they ask for a favour or help with something but as well as learning to say no I have also learned to say yes

Aug 06, 2015 12:44 PM

I have also learned to say yes to accepting help when it's offered and as I'm 34 and used to be very active I struggle and used to get embarrassed when offered help, it was like a pride thing, one of the biggest things I struggled with was having to use aids to get round the house and do everyday things biggest one was the walking stick as I always felt like it was giving off some sort of signal that I was weak and was always at the back at my mind that I'd be an easy target for a crime and was always anxious in certain situations so as well as saying no I have also learned to say yes.

Dec 08, 2017 1:08 PM

My youngest son is so hard to tell him no. He doesn't understand my health issues, he thinks fibro is all in my head. I'm just lazy. He doesn't know just how hard I push myself daily just to get thru a day. And that's just the fibro! then I have my back issues. Ugh

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