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Tired of all the red tape

Aug 25, 2016 3:53 PM

I'm so frustrated and stressed a d so tired of fighting.with being in pain all the time . Have to justify my pain prove my complaints and what seems like begging for barely enough from public help. With all my documented health issues and surgeries and court cases. Now my food stamps are being threatened and now the Dr who has been filled out my paperwork for the last two years all of a sudden can't find any evidence of my disability.
I'm emotionally exhausted and mentally done. I want to give up I'm not giving much help to family anyway and now that little bit is being threatened. Lawyer says judge needs more information before decision is made. My pain. Is high and spreading and I just don't see any rest in sight . My mind is mush and my heart is grounded up. Those thst have been hear know all I've been through and I'm trying to be strong I just want a hole to hide in. What else can I do.?

Aug 25, 2016 4:14 PM

Breath! It is out of your control. The system is seriously broken. From what you said after your hearing it sounded positive

Aug 25, 2016 4:17 PM

LMB..I'm seriously trying but LORD knows it's hard..if only the system had an easy button.. it sure needs one.

Aug 25, 2016 4:30 PM

Newfibrogirl you can stand firm, find whatever copies of documentation you have in your possession and ask exactly what it is that they are needing to look at to make their decision. I know that they are holding you up and that you're going through a lot with chemo and with pain and all. I also know family doesn't make things better all the time. You cannot measure your worth by what you bring to your home monetarily!!! You clean; cook, help with your Dad and whatever else you need to do. You're too strong to give up and you know that we are right here to help you through. You can do this. I know you had a barrage of things in a short time and it's been relentless but this does have to come to some kind of conclusion. You need to listen to your body, rest, try to put the rest out of your mind and take one step at a time. We can only do things based on what's going on at the moment you're in. If you look at it that way, you'll take moment by moment and get through. Besides, you always have me to make you laugh... LOL!! I'll even give you some cherries!!💕

Aug 25, 2016 6:05 PM

Newfibrogirl, as LMB said breath and relax as best you can. Try all of your relaxation techniques and let time take its course. There's nothing you can do. The best thing you can do is relax and try to keep your pain and stress down

Aug 25, 2016 6:31 PM

The easy button was already used up by the people that are not disabled but somehow are suckling on the teet of the system! Having been in health care for over 20 years I think I have seen most of it. I learned never to say I have seen it all. My best friends daughter walked in to the SS office and was approved on the spot- she is an alcoholic and still drinking to the point of eroding her esophagus and a liver. She did this to herself. So, I made healthy choices, did not drink or smoke and had to fight like hell for 2 1/2 years. Apparently all I needed to do is drink until I throw up blood and kill my liver. It is frustrating but- hey I look healthy. I truly understand your frustration, hugs.

Aug 25, 2016 6:36 PM

Exactly, it is exhaustingly irrating.

Aug 26, 2016 9:21 AM

Rest & destress. Hugs love & prayers for you!!!

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