Let's face it, my pain sometimes makes me scared to live my life. My husband and I are talking about actually having kids, but I'm not sure I can. I've been in chronic back pain for 10 years, gone through the docs western and eastern, and it's still undiagnosed. Massage helps, muscle relaxants helps and booze helps. That's about it. I'm terrified I won't be able to handle pregnancy. No pills/booze/baths for 9 months with extra pain??? I have no idea about how to research for an OB that can help with my specific situation. Ideas? Should I just go straight to adoption and get my tubes tied?
If it were me, seeing I've been through it, I would not go through pregnancy. Not all about it is bad or painful but who knows what you would go through. Everything you go through your baby goes through. A baby in the wound feels all. That's a lot of stress and pain for you both. You really need to think this through. Also you can use a saregate. Use your eggs and your husband's sperm. Many ppl have had great success with this.
I am going to adopt. However, only you know what's best for you. To find the best OB, I would try a medical system associated with a research hospital (I use OSU). My OB teaches and she's always up on the latest research.
Best of luck with your decision whatever you go with. I know my general physician discussed this with me briefly, that research shows about 1/3 of people experience a reduction in pain, 1/3 stay the same pain wise, and 1/3 worsen. Hydrotherapy/pool can also be an option at certain times of pregnancy? And pool birth also can help with some pain. OBs specialising in difficult pregnancies can hopefully help close the information gap. Best of luck
Honestly, Ive been thinking about this. I think Im going to get my shit right and go for it. Im going to do some fibro strength training, mindfulness, pain tolerance training, research and interview the right doctors, get my team right, and go for it. Im giving myself a 2 year window to get things roght, with hubby by my side. Also, it will help that I will have great family support in the first few years if I have flares if we are able to have a "new human." Completely honest, constant communication with hubby has been key and awesome!
Im not a super "baby lady." One would be cool, but I think our live will be a grand adventure without one too. Maybe we'll foster.