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Toxic Colleagues

Sep 18, 2016 7:10 AM

Does anyone else also suffer from toxic colleagues at workplace just because you have limitations due to illness?
I am facing this situation at mine and it hurts me alot to see people make fun of how i walk cuz i am a rheumatoid arthritis patient and feet are swollen :-(

Sep 18, 2016 9:29 AM

I'm so sorry. :( my boss and coworkers at my last job were horrendously toxic and it sent me into a spiral. At my new job my coworkers are all very supportive and even help me with the heavier work on days when my flares are bad. Have you tried talking to them directly about how their behavior hurts you? If that doesn't work and your job has HR, it might be time to start documenting and bring it to a higher power.

Sep 18, 2016 10:10 AM

It is incredible that people like that exist. They forget that today they have health but tomorrow I is not granted. I agree with Schwa. Be blessed

Sep 18, 2016 11:45 AM

@schwa u r so lucky to have supportive coworkers :)
Mine are horrible rather than helping me they dump more work on me :/ , im too thinking to contact my incharge about this issue she is a bit sympathetic

Sep 18, 2016 11:47 AM

@pb67 people dont fear that people dont realize that they might not be as healthy tomorrow as they r today or the same thing can happen to any of their loved one as well

Sep 19, 2016 1:59 AM

I am deeply saddened by your news...there is no excuse for their behaviour other than that they will never understand what you are going through.

You should feel sorry for them! How can they be so dim (unenlightened ) to the world around them!

I know it is hard but you don't need them to accept or understand your journey...you live each day for YOURSELF.

I had to print out information about my fibromyalgia for my work colleuges so they can understand. I even sketched my pain areas with a scale of 1-10 for each area on any given day. It wasn't easy and I was reluctant but it has done the world of good. They don't treat me differently (theu don't pity me) but are more understanding when I am not at my best...

Hope that there is a breakthrough for you soon and some change in energy around the office

Sep 19, 2016 2:41 AM

Im glad to know things are better for u now :-)
I am a pharmacist ,will soon give an elaborate presentation on my disorder for awareness , i hope it works... thanks a lot for the support i feel so blessed ☺

Sep 19, 2016 6:36 AM

Best of luck with your presentation. I have found that my coworkers knowing about my condition has made them meaner. Of course on top of being invisible there is no testing to prove that fibro and chemical sensitivities exist so according to management im faking.
My boss shit all over me on aug 31st and I'm still struggling with some of the tings he said, including stating that my inconsistencies mean I'm faking. So should I not do the best i can on any given day?
I just want to forget the whole thing happened but i keep getting told not to let him get away with that shit so today is the day i write up an email about how that conversation has affected me. I've been up since 4 am with major anxiety about the whole thing.
I don't think anyone will ever understand. And people in general are not nice and will always mock those that are different and that they don't understand. I know my coworkers make fun of me when I'm not in the room. Several of them have told me they make fun of me. And when i told one of then that our boss said that almost everyone in the group had complained about me he said that 2 of 17 might have but the rest just make fun of my condition and he wondered out loud if the boss was overhearing those conversations and talking them as complaints.
Anyway, all that to say you can't change human nature. They will still make fun if how you walk, it just won't be right in front of you. Some might change after you talk to them, but most will not.
Hugs

Sep 21, 2016 3:03 AM

This is so true there is no way to prove how we feeln wht we suffer from :(
Im so sorry u hd to go through so much cux of your mean n insensitive boss :/ ...
How did writting the email go did it work ?
People r jerks in general ive suffered from so many disappointments in the past tht i cant evn explain :-(
I hope u r doing well now ! T c
XoXo

Sep 21, 2016 8:30 AM

I haven't sent my email yet. I'm getting the few coworkers who are in my corner to proof read and edit so that nothing in it can be used against me. I'll probably send it Friday or next week

Sep 21, 2016 8:47 AM

Ahan,thts vry sensible of u ! 👍 meanwhile chill n dnt giv a damn bout the world HAKUNA MATATA thts wht my brother tells me whn im down 😊

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