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Vacation? Stress

Nov 09, 2016 5:54 AM

I know i stress about the dumbest things but i still need someone to talk this through with and the boyfriend isn't being helpful with his 'just make a decision already'.
He found a last minute deal to a place in Jamaica we've been to before. The food was good and the rooms were good so hopefully now that im chemically sensitive it'll be safe-ish.
However, it's an 8 hour flight followed by an hour and a half bus ride. The plane will not be safe and neither will the bus.
My passport is supposed to be mailed out November 16th and I'm worried I won't get it before the departure date in mid December.
We'd be getting back less than a week before Christmas and I'm not sure I'll have time to recover before Christmas and I know there will be major exposures at Christmas (his dad smokes and mine loves air fresheners) but I can't bail on Christmas.
He wants me to make a decision now so that he can book it.
I'm scared I'll be sick the whole time and not able to enjoy vacation. I'm scared that if im sick he'll leave me at the resort and go do things without me. I'm scared that if I say no he'll just book himself a ticket and go have fun without me.
The stress is causing my brain to shut down (something he doesn't understand at all) and his pushing for me to just decide what i want to do isn't helping at all. I don't know what decision to make. Do i go and risk getting really sick or do i stay and home and risk him figuring out that life without me is more fun.
I know it's something only i can decide but I'd like opinions please.

Nov 09, 2016 8:01 AM

I think you should first relax mind and body totally, so you can think it through calmly. Then decide which scenario you described is prefered: going out not?

If you take a chance & go, maybe you will enjoy it without issues. Just be prepared and take masks & anything else you might need, to breathe easier in risky places. I truly understand your fears because I have things that set me off to, some chemical & some that occur in nature. Try not to let your fears of the "what if" place you in a bubble where you don't enjoy living. I'm sending you hugs love & prayers, in hope that if you go you will have the best time ever! 🙂💕🙏🌸

Nov 09, 2016 10:23 PM

Flappys has said all that I would of said but more elegantly than I could of!
You need to take a deep breath.....breath in and as you are count to 5 and hold it in for a minute then breath out while counting to 8 do this a few times only concentrating on your breathing. Once you have done that your mind should have cleared so you can think it thro. Have you explained your fears to your boyfriend? About the plane and bus?
He loves you and knows what conditions you have and how they affect you. If he was that shallow he would have left you a long time ago when you started to be ill.
Ask him to let you talk thro your fears with him.....ask him to let you talk first without him saying anything until you finish as you need to say it to him before you decide.

Sending you {{{HUGS}}} XX

Nov 10, 2016 12:21 AM

I think I'm just going to go... if i can get the days off and the vacation deal is still there on Friday

Nov 10, 2016 12:50 AM

I hope you can and I really hope you enjoy it x

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