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Waving the white flag

Oct 04, 2015 11:08 PM

I finally caved and let my hubby order a transport wheelchair for outings that would require too much walking.
I am so conflicted. I feel sick inside! 😥

Oct 04, 2015 11:16 PM

It's going to be fine Luvsdragracing. (((Hugs))). My hubby wants one for me too. I told him when we can trade my compact car for a quad can pickup or an SUV then OK, but it's hard enough fitting my walker in my trunk. I use to care what everybody thought and tried to please everyone, until it made me physically sick. Now I couldn't care less if they approve or not. If I can't take care of my own needs I'll be no good for anyone else. 🙏🌼

Oct 04, 2015 11:28 PM

I just feel like the pain has won the war.

Oct 04, 2015 11:44 PM

What exactly is responsible for why you needed to use a career out wheelchair? Mine is because the longer I walk the more I get SOB, and the more I begin to hurt in my hip stickers and feet. Once I start hurting I begin to wobble back and forth like a penguin. 🐧 Is rather ride a cart or be pushed in a wheelchair, and still be able to take part, rather than suddenly collapse and be rushed to an ER. Acceptance took time for me to not be embarrassed because of my weaknesses. But I realized not as many people were being judgemental as there were people kind enough to ask if I needed assistance. It helped me accept. (((Hugs))) for the sorrow of what has been lost. 🙏🌼

Oct 05, 2015 12:54 AM

Thanks Flappy. It's been hard for me to accept my limitations. I get really anxious about going places. Just never know when the body will just quit on me. Intend to just not go places because of it. My hubby thinks this will help my depression since I will be able to go places I have not been to in years. We shall see. It will be delivered in a week.

Oct 05, 2015 12:57 AM

I used one of those walkers with the wheels and the seat when I was 21 and had my ankle surgery. It was right near Christmas and I couldn't walk non weight-bearing on my ankle for long enough to shop. I also used a motorized scooter for my last hip surgery so I could get around.
You'll be fine. If you need it you need. Getting out and seeing people will definitely help your well being and help maintain a good state of mind

Oct 05, 2015 8:37 AM

Luvsdragracing, I understand. Some days I refuse to leave my house because of my IBS & pelvic floor dysfunction, sometimes I know it's a possible accident waiting to happen. From the time I eat every morning, I know not to leave my house for 3-4 hours, because going to the bathroom sometimes takes that long.

I made the decision to keep my outings short (<2 hours) and close to home. It's helping me enjoy life again! And my hubby and I are talking of moving to a handicap friendly home, just in case as I agree I require a wheelchair. The house were in was built in the 70's and nearly every doorway is too narrow to even fit a walker through. I'll do whatever I need to, though it will be hard moving. My hubby and I remodeled both bathrooms and our kitchen ourselves, and its something were proud of. It'll be hard to leave, if/when it comes to it.

I didn't accept using a walker or cart, or even cane easily. But after about a month I was OK. Wishing you the best! 🙏🌼

Oct 05, 2015 10:58 AM

Luvsdragracing, please try not to be so upset. You've not "given up" you only got it to use when you go where the walk would be too much. Be kind to yourself. None of us gets any medals pinned on us for being in pain and why suffer more than you have to!? I am sending you gentle {{{Hugs}}} to help you through and wish you peace of mind and a less pain. Hang in there. We're all here for you.🌻🙏🏻

Oct 05, 2015 1:15 PM

Thank you for encouragement everyone. 💜

Oct 05, 2015 2:35 PM

Wheelchairs can feel like a statement at times. When I was able to use a chair it was liberating, literally as I had been in a hospital bed for so long. A year or so later it felt like defeat whenever I used it, to the extent that I did not leave the house for a few months. I have learnt to be more pragmatic about it now, don't give a stuff what others think and know several others who have been on similar journeys. In short if ya need it then use it, maximising your quality of life is what is important..

Oct 10, 2015 10:03 AM

Well it is here. Giving it a go at the zoo tomorrow. Haven't been there in 29 yrs.

Oct 10, 2015 6:22 PM

I hope you enjoy the zoo!! I absolutely love animals and always loved to be able to go and see such magnificent creatures that I would not have otherwise seen if not for the zoo. Pace yourself, take breaks and most of all have a blessed and peaceful day with less pain. 🌻🙏🏻

Oct 10, 2015 10:34 PM

Have fun Luvsdragracing, and rest when you needed to! 🙏🌼

Oct 11, 2015 5:45 PM

Had a great time and was able to go fishing today 😊

Oct 11, 2015 9:22 PM

That's so wonderful! Glad to hear it! Goodnight with sweet dreams! 🙏🌼

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