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What Brings You Comfort?

Feb 19, 2016 11:32 AM

Not everyone will agree or want to participate, and that's ok. But if interested in participating, please share your method of what bring you the most comfort while trying to cope through the daily pain. It can be religious or non religious methods. It's what works for you; to calm you, relax you, relieve stress, comfort.

Many of you know my belief in God is my biggest comfort while I struggle to cope. Today I happened to be doing my daily Bible reading of one of my favorites verses. This (below) is one of my favorite verses when I'm struggling through anything difficulty.

Romans 8:28. "But we do know that all things work together for good to those
who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose."

It brought great comfort the day I reported for admission to the hospital, in order to abort a tubal pregnancy. The abortion was evaded and my baby came 8 months later. The same verse brought comfort as in one day I nearly totalled my car rear ending another to avoid flipping (starting much of my spinal injuries); my hubby's truck motor burnt up the same morn on his way to work; we had major gas leak in our home that morning (my wreck delayed gas company coming to repair); we had to cancel our appointment to buy (sign contract) a larger mobile home that afternoon; we had to find means of transportation without insurance help (we learned to have rental car clause) and pay for both vehicle repairs (took 3 months); we had to repair a major plumbing leak that necessitated gutting the particle-board-floored bathroom two months later (2 wk without a bathroom- just a toilet) & 2 children). Without my faith I would lost it. My hubby & I both refer to that time as "our year in hell on earth."

Today, this verse was referred to while reading in a plan by Reverend Billy Graham. The younger generations may not be familiar with him, but he was one of the biggest and most prominent, influential Evangelical Christian Ministers in my youth (worldwide); I'm now 54. In his study plan he said the following, which I was surprised to learn about these people:

"Working Together For Good:
We might never have had the songs of Fanny Crosby, had she not been afflicted with blindness. George Matheson would never have given the world his immortal song, “O Love That Will Not Let Me Go,” had it not been for his passing through the furnace of affliction. The “Hallelujah Chorus” was written by George Frederick Handel when he was poverty-stricken and suffering from a paralyzed right side and right arm. Affliction may be for our edification and Christian development. Sickness is one of the “all things” which work together for good to them that love God. Don’t resent it. Don’t be embittered by it.
His Daily Prayer:
You do not make mistakes, Father. If sorrow comes into my life, let me use it to help others know about You. - by Billy Graham"

I hope you will choose to share something that brings you inner peace among all the turmoil. What brings you comfort? Hugs, love, & prayers for a peaceful weekend with less pain to all of you! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Feb 19, 2016 12:21 PM

Hi Flappy,
Your question is awesome. ☺️
I am not religious, but spiritual. I believe it is powerful to have a belief of some sort.

Mine has been my breath.
I started meditating 3 years ago. Being conscious of my breath and trying to come back to it. I use to walk then changed to running with this I had problems with pacing myself and overdoing it often which messed me up for training and goal setting. I now realize looking back how my breath could help me to regain my focus and pace. I am no longer able to run but I still carry the practice of my breath. It has carried me through some really challenging times. I find it very refreshing throughout the day to be mindful of my breath.
Like you say our beliefs may be different. But it is cool to share and appreciate what it is others do to help get clarification/guidance and hopefully some relief.
Thank you.

Feb 19, 2016 2:23 PM

Beets, I think awareness of our bodies and how we respond is the key. You mentioned your breathing. I've noticed when I'm anxious & tense my breathing gets faster. I've used relaxation to help gain control. Thanks for sharing your best method! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Feb 21, 2016 11:40 AM

Flappy, great topic/ question. Right this very moment I am suffering. Legs are weak it difficult to get around the house...not to mention the pain. Arms hurt so badly it's hard to hold my tablet. So let me see what I can do to bring myself some relief right now.

Feb 21, 2016 12:15 PM

Flappsy, I really enjoyed reading your post. It was very comforting to read it and to really think about what it means. I've prayed many times to God to help me through crisis and flares and horrendous pain and have been led to this community to help others. I have found renewed purpose in my life in coming here and offering a hand to hold, an ear to listen or my arms for a hug to hold someone who needs support. If my experiences or my thoughts and words can help someone to just hang on or put a smile on their face, that brings joy to my heart. I've met several people here who embraced me when I introduced myself and I consider you to be very dear and special friends (or extended family). I think that trying to help someone else cope with their pain or any crisis going on in their lives is what I am meant to do. I feel I was guided here by divine means.
I also try to maintain a positive outlook on my life. I surround myself with wonderful people (my peeps in the community), beautiful things and my pets. I am learning to meditate and to bring myself to a relaxed state and I also have found distraction in something I've always loved and that's music. All kinds (except opera and heavy metal) LOL!! 😜 I hope and pray that all of my peeps are having a wonderful, peaceful and light pain Sunday. Love and {{{Hugs}}} to all. 💕🙏🏻🌻😍

Feb 21, 2016 1:38 PM

What, no head banging? Lol! I do like rock & roll, but not heavy metal. Thanks for sharing!! You're a true friend to me, and everyone here, and I treasure everything you share & advice you give. Have a blessed day today, & I pray little pain over the next few days (from family gathering). Hugs, love, & prayers! 🙂🙏🌼💕

Feb 21, 2016 2:36 PM

LOL!!! No head banging Flappsy!! (Gives me a headache😋😉). I feel the same about you and I'm blessed that our paths have crossed and I have the pleasure of calling you friend!! 💕😍

Feb 21, 2016 7:31 PM

I too, am a man of Faith. It is comforting for me to know why we are going through pain and why God is not taking away our pain. Here is the supporting scriptures that help me understand why

All of us are aware of the account in Genesis about Adam and Eve. I believe in them and feel they are real. I am sure many do. According to that account, God set them up to live in the Garden of Eden and to name the animals and to produce children to spread out the population throughout the earth. God told them that they could eat from every tree on the earth except for the tree of knowledge and the tree of good and bad. That seemed silly to some people, but it was a way of God exercising his authority over them. But something happened. It is shown in Genesis 3:1-7, the serpent who is Satan tauntingly said to Eve "Did God really say that you must not eat from every tree of the garden?" Then Eve told him in verse 2 We may eat of the trees of the garden But God has said of the fruit of the tree of the middle of the garden, you may not eat it you must not touch, otherwise you will die. The serpent, Satan, said you certainly will not die, for God knows the day of you eating it, your eyes will be open and you will be like God knowing good and bad. And we know the rest of the story. That she ate the fruit. This was an important moment in human history. This was the very beginning of sin and man calling into question God's right to rule. The desire to be like God basically challenged God's sovereignty and his right to rule. It brought about the question, "Could humans rule themselves sucessfully serperately from God and not need him?" They had perfect human bodies. The human body is not meant to die. They don't know why it does. Can humans bring themselves back to perfection like they had back in the days of Adam and Eve? Those questions had to be answered.

So we have had several world powers since then. We have had many other forms of Government but they have all failed in form or another. Even the ones we live in don't give us the things that we need to make us feel secure. But why do we feel pain. Why does God not take that away. That is what I wanted to know. I found the answer in Job and it was comforting. In Job 2:3-7, Jehovah told Satan, have you noticed my servant Job. There is no one like him on the earth. He is full of integrity. He shuns what is bad. He fears God even though you try to destroy him.

But then Satan said in return. Skin for skin, A man will give everything he has for his life. But for a change stretch out your hand and strike his bone and flesh, and he will surely curse you to your very face.

So Satan accuse man of only loyally worshiping God because he did everything for people. Up until then, if they were faithful, he blessed them. But Satan said, take away your protection and see if they worship you, see if they will be loyal.

So God refused to stretch out his hand against mankind. He would not give out wickedness. But he said in verse six of Job 2, Talking about Job, "Jehovah said to Satan, Look! He is in your hand. Only, do not take his life. So sicknesses could take our life but Satan could not directly kill us.

So that same principle falls on us today. Will we worship God despite his lack of protection. Even though Satan is stretching out his hand against us with debilitating pains and deadly sicknesses. I guess it also depends if we believe in Satan as a real being. So knowing this gives me comfort in knowing why I am going through pain. If we had not challenged Gods right to rule and don't have God's protection in order to prove we will still be faithful to him. It comforts me a lot. I am sorry if this offends others. I don't mean to.

Feb 21, 2016 7:35 PM

Nothing helps my pain if I get to sleep that is the only time I am pain Free😐 Gabepetin was helping but I had to go with a cheaper insurance the med was way expensive I am going to see if my doc can give me something that will not damage my liver further😒

Feb 21, 2016 8:41 PM

Profiler, thanks for sharing that. I believe every word. I believe our trials and tests in life do shape us, and make who we are today and will be in the future. I believe God allows us to "pass through the valleys of shadows & deaths" to strengthen us and give us courage for what may come in our futures. Thanks again for sharing Job's story!

Frogie, thank you for sharing this. Are you you able to sleep most of the time? When we don't sleep it can increase our pain. Ask your doctor what else you might try besides the gabapentin.

Feb 21, 2016 8:58 PM

Profiler, thank you for that. I too have been reading through the book of Job to see if it could offer me any help for increasing my patience and it did. I have one saying that my grandmom used to tell us when we were little. "If God brings you to it, he will lead you through it." I had honestly forgotten about this until recently, when I found myself calling out, "God, why have you forsaken me?" It's not that he has forsaken us, although sometimes for me, it appears that way. I've begun to look at it as more of a test of faith. Oh I also learned something. People say to me quite a bit, "God never gives us more then we can handle." My response has always been, "yeah, well God must think I'm a bad ass."

Feb 21, 2016 9:14 PM

I got the humor out of that Amanda. I laughed really loud. And you are a badass for taking on the things you have been taking on. But just remember the scriptures in Job shows that it is Satan that is dishing out the bad pains and sicknesses against us. God is just not protecting us since Satan challenged him saying that you and I would only worship him if he protected us and gave us good things, We have to prove him otherwise.

Feb 21, 2016 9:19 PM

Amanda, I thought of saying that to you just two days ago. You are too funny! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Feb 21, 2016 9:24 PM

My faith helps me to cope with day to day pain. People round me don't believe in faith and think it's a load of rubbish,so I keep it to myself. I love doing my arts and crafts, and cos I like doing all things there is something I can do no matter how pain I'm in. I also like watching nature,whether it's a bird flying or a leaf blowing in the wind I find it very calming in my mind.

Feb 21, 2016 9:56 PM

Flappys, I kept thinking that while I was being stuck repeatedly on Tuesday. It helped for a bit.

Feb 21, 2016 9:57 PM

Sorry, brain fart. That should have said Thursday. My days are beginning to blur together at this point.

Feb 22, 2016 3:21 AM

Wow, I really am in awe of you all. The faith, spirituality and mindfulness amaze me. When I read your posts I learn a little each day ;)

Feb 22, 2016 5:20 PM

Risa thank you for sharing. And you don't have to keep mum about your faith here, because everyone is allowed to be honest, whether they do or don't have faith, spirituality, mindfulness, or atheist. We don't judge each other. We are all here to love and support each other for our chronic pain, not our beliefs.

Amanda, that's ok. You've had a rough 2 weeks. I oppose this week goes better and less stressful.

Newty thank you. If you don't mind sharing, what do you think gives you the most comfort when you are struggle to cope? 🙂💕🙏🌼

Feb 22, 2016 6:31 PM

So since I mistakenly nplaced my response in the wrong thread I'll repeat it here...
Unfortunately and I know it's a cliche but I find comfort when I'm with my boyfriend. We are apart most of the time but when I speak with him see and the rare times I get to hold him is when I'm the calmest. I also find peace when I cook but lately it's been causing me a lot of pain to cook so that's not so fun. And I also have to say coming here and reading and responding bto the lost here bring a calm to me sometimes.

Feb 22, 2016 8:15 PM

Thank you Newfibrogirl. I use to calm down with cross stitching, but can no longer do that. Have you ever tried to thread a needle or stick it into a specific hole with hand tremors? Lol 😉

Feb 22, 2016 8:25 PM

Lol actually yes. And it was a no go..

Feb 23, 2016 5:46 PM

My comfort isn't spiritual or religious but I would say music comforts me. I have always loved to sing and I play piano too. I have certain songs that can instantly calm me because they bring on good memories and I suppose it distracts me. I work in a nursery so if I'm at work I sit and sing Disney songs with the kids - so much to the point where we now have a 'song of the day' and it goes up on the board. Sounds a bit weird maybe but it keeps me going. I also used to get panic attacks when I was really young (I don't any more thank goodness) but sometimes I find if I'm stressing out then pain gets worse so sometimes I sort of talk to myself in my head to make sure I stay calm and think about things that are positive and distract myself.

Feb 23, 2016 8:50 PM

Oh I envy you Summerisbest! I've piano music and always wanted to play. I actually tried once but apparently have 2 left thumbs! Lol. Music really is soothing. Thanks for sharing.

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