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Oct 06, 2019 10:09 PM

Hello community, I have a random question, and I kind of need to vent, (I hope that's OK).
My partner told me he's sick of hearing about my pain and my whinging.
Well, I thought I was doing a pretty good job at not voicing my pain much at all. Only when I do something that hurts really bad I will say ouch, but only when it catches me off guard -you know, like when I banged my broken arm on the door or something.
I'm doing my best to keep upbeat and appreciate what I do have.
I haven't shown any signs of depression to him at all.
So my question is, what can I do better?
I thank him every day for working hard, I do everything around the house despite my pain (fibromyalgia and currently a broken arm).
Please don't simply suggest I leave him!
I'm after some serious advice. I'm certain other people on this forum have dealt with the same issues. It's a hard time for everyone, suffering from any chronic illness.
I thank you in advance for having a read and for any possible advice.

Oct 08, 2019 10:24 PM

Katpain, I understand where your coming from. My husband would get irritated on occasion because I would be unable to do some activity he could. It wasn’t until he had an unexpected hospitalization that he began to see what it was like to suffer from chronic pain, you know that old saying “walk a mile in my shoes.” Perhaps it was a bad day for him? Do the best you can every day. That’s all you can do. Otherwise the problem is his and he has to come to terms with your limits. Good luck🤗😘🌸🦋🙏

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