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Why dose no one listen πŸ˜”

Sep 16, 2015 3:42 PM

I'm currently sitting in a&e because I think I've dislocated my elbow. and the nurse is just looking at me like I have no idea what I'm talking about cause it's 'very difficult to dislocate your elbow' apparently being hyper mobile doesn't matter anymore πŸ˜” mood is so low it's unreal. Wish people would take me seriously

Sep 16, 2015 4:05 PM

Fibro0195, I'm sorry for your injury. I hope the doctor is more compassionate than the nurse. Make sure you let them know about your hypermobility.. Hugs & a prayer it will go back in place without problems easily and soon! πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Sep 16, 2015 6:44 PM

I know what you mean, my average pain level is 7-8 but I wear bright colors, two different color shoes, and I always (almost always) smile. I have been ignored by medical and non-medical people and told, People who are really in pain don't wear bright colors or smile all the time. We'll I have to live with me all the time and my happiness is not connected to my pain. I worked hard to separate them so I could be happy even while being in pain all the time for the rest of my life. It is hard when you need help and no one believes you, but keep searching with luck you will find someone that hears you and will help. I have πŸ˜†

Sep 16, 2015 8:16 PM

Smilemom
.I can relate. I've hate it when I hear ..oh u don't look sick.. Or oh u are so funny... But it's said in a tone as to say why r u here if u r cracking jokes. I agree with u if i don't laugh I'll be in tears all the time. And I've had to teach myself how to disconnect my mind from my what my body is feeling. The thing about it is when in do this my personality changes. Its hard to maintain all the time but it happens.
Fibro195 I understand how u feel. But I say to u to keep going I love bright.colors too and if that makes u feel good then do it. And I know its hard to find a good doctor I had to go through a lot of them a d still having to sift through some.bad eggs.

Sep 16, 2015 9:26 PM

I hope if your elbow is out that it goes back easily. I've been told all my life that it's my imagination that my shoulder goes out, because if it went out it couldn't go back on it's own.

Forty three years later I learn I have EDS and yes it can go in and out without a doctor "seeing" it happen.

Sep 16, 2015 9:35 PM

Smilemom & Newfibrogirl, I agree about happiness. Laughter is our best medicine. If we can find some enjoyment, some laughter, it releases some stress of what we are dealing with. I had an appointment today and walking in people liked at my cane and agree then proceeded to ignore me. I passed others who were on camera and i purposely greeted them with a "hello" & a smile, just as I did everyone I passed. They smiles back, the only ones.πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Sep 16, 2015 10:50 PM

It's amazing how few people, even in the medical fields, understand these health conditions. I will absolutely be praying for you and sending good thoughts. Know that you aren't alone!

Sep 17, 2015 5:46 AM

I am studying to be a nurse and it's horrible to realise that you are on more painkillers then most your patients. But I love what I do. I feel so guilty not going in because I know a certain patient needs me and I've let her down. I actually hurt my elbow while on shift. It did dislocate and went back in its was just the pain and swelling that was noticeable when I went to a&e hours after I hurt it. I couldn't believe the nurse saying that to me but the doctor was lovely and really apologised for the nurse. I got very upset and the doctor sat with me and comforted me.

Sep 17, 2015 7:44 AM

I'm so glad it went back in so quickly and easily. Elbows can be so rough. I'm glad the doctor was so much more understanding, and that the nurse didn't turn you off becoming one! Hope your elbow is feeling better today.

Sep 17, 2015 10:32 AM

Fibro0195, I'm so sorry for your situation. I can't understan why these people who have gone through years and years of schooling to become doctors and nurses say such asinine things!!! My hands are horrible. My finger joints (all of them) are loose and just jamming a finger can cause a dislocation. I spent almost an entire year in a cast for my right thumb because I dislocated it and it wasn't getting better. The doctor treating me said he felt the tendons tore off the bone and I needed surgery. He sent me to another doctor for confirmation. Now, he wanted me to have an MRI and because of the wires in my neck I can't. So they have to figure it out with certain mobility tests to see if the thumb went in directions it shouldn't. The other doc did the same exact thing as e did and agreed. Went back and he said he wanted me to stay in a cast for another month and maybe that would help. I said it had already been 1/2 the year and I wanted it to be fixed and done. He said he didn't believe that the tendons were torn despite the other doctor's diagnosis. WELL, I went to the hospital for surgery and when they opened it up, not only was the joint broken but BOTH the flexor AND extensor tendons were torn from the bone! So, they had to rebuild the joint. I pray that they get your elbow sorted out and that your pain gets better soon. πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Sep 17, 2015 1:57 PM

fibro0195, good luck with your nursing career! I was a nurse for 20+ years and loved it. Sure wish I could still work… I miss it a lot! Hugs to you :)

Sep 17, 2015 3:25 PM

Thanks for that! I have one more year to go till I qualify. It's just things like this that knock you back a step or two. I've had a day off today to recover but I'm back tomorrow, hopefully it doesn't happen again

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