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Nov 14, 2016 11:54 PM

So far I have had my pain syndrome for 6 years. Sometimes I feel like going back to when I was five and starting over. I'm scared of being in my early 20s and not being able to ride or walk because of my legs.

According to one of my friends I have been bossy, rude and depressed. When she told me this I had just found out that I got a c in language arts. So after everything going on I snapped and started crying at school. I looked like I had just broken something. So I go to my wellness teacher she was able to calm me down after 15 min. Then today I decided not to sit with the whole group and I ask my bff to sit with me but instead she goes and hangs it with the people who were brats to me. So as usual I end up in the middle again the gril who gets easily stressed out. Sometimes do you wish that you could take a pill to make everything go away except for the ones who care about you?

Nov 15, 2016 12:57 AM

There is still a Good life if you can't walk!!!

Nov 15, 2016 7:24 AM

Take a deep breath and relax. You will be fine no matter what happens. And remember those who cannot walk can still ride. Things are stressful and will always be, you need to figure out what works best for you to calm your tjoughts/feelings and distress yourself. Having others is great but you can not count on it. Once you are less stressed your friends will want to be around you more anyway. Good luck.

Nov 15, 2016 9:23 AM

I'm so glad you have your wellness teacher at school and they can help even for a little bit.
Im 47 but I still remember that highschool experience and the total letdown of friends mine ditch me for a movie when I was in crisis... It's crushing. Highschool is just a part of life to get thru when you are a person with empathy and compassion .. throw in your chronic pain wow. I think you are doing great advocating for yourself, I'm so sorry you were let down.
My life time awesome real caring socially responsible super supportive friends I've collected through my life after highschool, just wait.
Some have chronic pain but most are just good people. Breathe hang in there, enjoy the moments where you can laugh with your highschool friends but understand your life experiences although challenging have given you a deeper view and understanding of your world around you. You look past just your school assignments and worry about what life may bring you. You're tougher, stronger and more brilliant than your peers. You may need to be patient and wait for them to catch up.
Big hugs and things will get better!

Nov 16, 2016 3:08 PM

Try the greatful calander, focus on your health and school work, high schoolers, either get freaked out by your issues and dont know what to do or says so they give up, or they're being selfish and thinking of their own issues, and you dont know maybe theyre going through tough shit too, and they need to focus on their problems. When you have major health issues that no one else around you have, then you are not going to have a lot of friends but you will have a few close ones, and having a few good ones is better then having 100 fake ones. Keep your family close, family is forever, and when you find your self alone you have us! We are your friends and we are a pain family! WE will always be here for you, we understand, we have been there no matter what age. I'm 26 and I'm going through a, find out who my true friends are issue too, it'll happen through out your life but there will always be someone there for you, even if its yourself. You need to remember that this is what happens when you're in pain and if they can't handle you at your worst they don't deserve you at your best.

Nov 16, 2016 3:20 PM

All of the comments are true, and just remember high school is only 4 years of a very long eventful and happy life, make the most of the joy you have with friends now and remember to good.

Nov 16, 2016 3:55 PM

Ode to the days of school, I do not miss! Those are the awkward, cliquish, judgemental years that no one really likes to talk about; especially those who were different from most. It's great you have a teacher who is supportive. I'm sorry your bff wasn't though. As others have said you will have friends that come and go in your life. Those loyal may be far & few between, or constantly changing. Just be yourself, and you will find the best friends who will remain loyal throughout your life.

Having a C grade isn't preferred by most, but it doesn't have to be devastating either. As long as you make the best effort to do well you have no reason to feel shame or anger at yourself. I struggled in school, making mostly B's & C's, and occasionally A's. I barely passed Algebra and Social Studies, but I did my best. My daughter's and hubby on the other hand could make A's with very little effort, hearing it once. Me, I had to read twice, write notes, and listen twice (I recorded lectures).

If you try your best and don't get the grade you hoped for, try studying the areas that seem to be your weakest. But if the grade is because your illnesses interfered with studies, learn to accept there will be days like that. I'm sending gentle hugs, love & prayers! 🙂💕🙏🌸

Nov 16, 2016 9:48 PM

If your health is getting in the way of doing your studies, tell your wellness teacher and maybe you and your teachers can come up with a plan on how you can do the school work, but maybe a little differently. When I was in highschool I dislocated my shoulder really bad and ended up being home taught, where the district sends a teacher to your house after school hours and they help you do the writing and stuff so you can keep going but its easier on you, maybe concider home schooling even?

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