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Why people are so mean nasty

Mar 19, 2016 9:39 PM

I am sorry that you feel that way. Who are you having a hard time from? What happened that makes you feel that way? People can be rough especially when they don't understand things. Let me know if you want to talk.

Mar 19, 2016 9:41 PM

At my job I'm a cashier. Had anxiety attack from nasty as people so ignorant rude. I lost a friend he was 31

Mar 19, 2016 10:12 PM

That is such a young age to lose a friend. I am so sorry. This must be devastating. I remember that happening to me and I was in utter disbelief and my friend was semi close. I felt sort of empty inside for a day or two but it passed. You never forget your friend and it hurts but you will always have good memories. That is something you probably don't want to hear right now but it really does happen.

It must be hard to work at convenience stores. People can be so impatient and rude. When things don't go their way or they don't get what they THINK they asked for, they just go off on the cashier. That is really mean that they do that. They don't have the decency to be calm and try to let you help them. Sorry for the bad day. I hope you have a better one tomorrow. Sometimes when it comes to people like that, I just like to smile at them. It makes them so much madder and it makes me happier. But that is my vindictive side.

I am sorry for the bad day though. Best wishes to a better one tommorow.

Mar 21, 2016 1:22 PM

Lol, me too. I can't "make" them anything. What they think isn't my business. But yes, mean grumpy people in public can be hard to handle. You kinda feel sorry for them, that they are so sad and mad and have to take it out on the world.
Of course, then I wonder if they are in pain too, or just got bad news, or miss someone who died. We know life is hard, but the best response is always going to be the better, kinder response.

Losing friends is hard too. Hopefully they were just having a bad day too, and they will return and apologize and want to be your friend again. If they can't, well, that hurts, but could be a good thing too.

Hugs.

Mar 21, 2016 1:24 PM

Errrr, unless you meant you LOST a friend. My apologies and condolences on your loss. It is such a shock.

Even bigger hugs.

Mar 24, 2016 7:57 PM

Fluffmeister, I'm sorry you had such a bad day and no support with the anxiety attack. And I'm sorry you lost your friend. That leaves a really empty space that sometimes never heals, or at least it was for me. Years ago I worked as a bank teller, which is very similar to cashier work. Though most people think those positions are easy and low stress, they're actually just the opposite, at least emotionally & mentally. Being responsible for so much money was very stressful to me. I was rarely out of balance, and always found my outages, except twice (when I suspected a co-worker of stealing). Years after I left she was caught red handed, fitted, & prosecuted. Customers and even coworkers can be awful to deal with some days. I just always tried to smile. I hope you have had better days since you posted this. I'm just catching up from being offline. Hugs & prayers you have a good weekend! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Mar 25, 2016 9:15 AM

I'm going to tell you in a nutshell why people are so mean.. Because they are so miserable in their own lives that it makes THEM feel better to make others miserable. That's why I love animals more than most people!! {{{Hugs}}} 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

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