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Wife filed for divorce

Mar 18, 2016 2:45 AM

My wife thinks the same way about heroine as she does marijuana. She filed divorce while I checked into Psyc unit to process what was happening. My biz partner was doing bad stuff, but had my wife conned. Staying at a friends. Going back from 3 Simpson Oil pills and 3-5 times smoking per day ... to 6 Vicodin 10-325 b/c I have a narrow-minded wife, or soon to be ex.

She wants zero Mari, zero narcotics. Ron's pain .... oh well.

Mar 18, 2016 3:10 AM

I understand how you feel. People can be so narrow minded and they expect people to do things for them that they have no idea what they are asking for. Asking for someone to not treat their pain is a huge sacrifice with big health and mental consequences.

I have been teasing my daughter about this subject lately. Because she believes I should never use marijuana. She says it is mind altering. Personally, I don't believe in smoking it. I am not judging anyone. I just don't believe in smoking. I think it is bad for you. But I think there are other ways of delivery. Like I said, I have no desire to judge anyone else. I am just saying as regarding my discussion with my daughter. But I then explained to her that oxycodone is really worse then marijuana. At least, I believe that is true. If I am right, it comes from the poppy seed which basically is also used in heroine. Still she believed what I was taking was not as bad as me using say marijuana cream or pills. I have a phobia, an extreme one, of throwing up, if I got cancer, I told her there is nothing that would stop me from using it. That maybe in that extreme case, I would smoke the least amount required to take to control vomiting. She thinks I am so wrong.

Mar 18, 2016 3:20 AM

Divorce is never happy. Been there twice. My Brother died at age 31 from Drug that his wife did and shared HIV. They both died over 20 years ago from Aids.
I only take my perscribed meds. Not always as directed i forget a lot.
I hope you can get relief from your medical issues so you can survive the Divorce and have a life you can enjoy.
Take it one day at a time. And hire the best dam lawyer you can, do not agree to anything without proper legal advice. I hired a cheap lawyer and am pay support to my ex even 21 years after our 9 year marrige ended
Good luck.

Mar 19, 2016 12:26 PM

Man, I feel you! I have been divorced for about 3 years ago and it doesn't get any easier. If you ever need to talk I'm here for you. I'm still dealing with custody issues and Lawyers.

Mine left also because of my Chronic Pain, but did it in such a wrong manner. He went as far as moving his tramp in our house! I left 2 month's later as soon as I found a place to go and took the kids with me!

Mar 19, 2016 12:29 PM

Moparmom good for you!!! Don't let anyone ever walk all over you!! I am sorry that happened to you. I can't even imagine the balls to bring another woman into your home with you and your kids there. What a jerk!! {{{Hugs}}}💕🙏🏻

Mar 19, 2016 2:36 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this. Cannabis is probably one of the safest/mildest things you can take, and it is so frustrating that it has such a social stigma attached to it.

We are all here if you need to vent!

Mar 19, 2016 9:05 PM

Moparmon, I am sorry someone did that to you. That must have really messed with your head for a while. I was a child of divorce and I saw the effect divorce had on my mom when another women was involved. But I could never imagine a man to be so heartless, insensitive and disgusting to bring a whore into your house. I can't believe this woman willingly came in. It says so much about her character. You must be a very strong woman to have dealt with that and moved on. I am proud of you. My mom stopped living after her divorce. She let a man define who she was. I hated her for that. That is why I think women should never fully rely on a man for everything and they should always speak their own mind. Don't let their husband speak for them. I believe women should be strong. I raised a strong woman. She doesn't even like to rely on me. It makes me sort of sad and happy. Again. I am sad, sorry, and mad that that happened to you. Best wishe's.

Mar 21, 2016 1:32 PM

Good riddance to rubbish!!! Remember, it's so hard, but the Universe has now made room in your life for God to drop good things in!

And yes, the canbabis is better, if it works for you, for pain than processed poppies. I use edibles and ouls. No 'high' at all, except for the joy of being relatively pain free. Other people's ignorance is so painful, especially those that are important to our lives.
Do what you need, what you think is best for yourself. I got the harsh judgment back 20 years ago when I started antidepressants. I don't need meds for depression and ptsd? Soooo, I should just die? If I were diabetic, you wouldn't begrudge me insulin!
They aren't your doctor or your conscience. And now they don't get to be with you, their loss!

Mar 21, 2016 5:37 PM

I think that stigma is starting to break down. I was at the Arthritis Centre for a pain management class. Another attendee brought up the use of marijuana. The physiotherapist running the class pulled out a handout printed on behalf of centre on the benefits of marijuana for arthritis sufferers. We sat in the class, average age likely over 65, and openingly discussed the benefits of smoking vs. edibles vs. topical so, different strains, and how to obtain what's right for you. I do live in a city that has medical marijuana dispensaries on my street corners than Starbucks. But, that handout was intended to be Province wide. Baby steps, right?

Mar 21, 2016 7:17 PM

Take one day at a time, and don't let anyone tell you how to live YOUR life. We are here for you!

Mar 22, 2016 9:40 PM

It is interesting that everyone has different opinions of the use of medical marijuana. A lot of people do not have a accurate understanding for its use for medical purposes. When people hear marijuana all they know is it being illegal and being used to get high... Alter the mind. I must admit I was one of those people. It is hard to shake the negative. I had an older brother ( rest his soul) that would get tore up from the floor up by using "weed" to get high. I absolutely never wanted to be like that. So if there is a history of inappropriate use of a substance it can cause a person to only remember the bad, brings back the emotions associated with that period of time.
I wonder if you feel the marriage is worth saving? If it is what are you willing to do to save it? I too have been through a divorce. An experience I absolutely do not want to repeat. Thus the reason I have been divorced so long. You do recover. You can move on. But what is the price you pay?
Just thought I would give you some food for thought. Peace & Blessings!!

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