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Jan 05, 2016 11:01 PM

Dose anyone have issues with work not understand fibro? I guess I just don't really know how to get them to understand that if I call in sick it's not me being lazy. Where I work they require a doctors note for any sick day, and that makes me mad because I live 30 min from the hospital and don't have insurance anymore so I don't get to take sick days due to the fact they aren't gonna do anything for me. All they are gonna do is tell me it's fibro and send me home. And to me that's a waste of money and time. Also I have asked for morning shifts because my pain gets worse the later it gets in the day. But they continue to schedule me for evening shifts.
I'm already on work restrictions as far as how long I can work and even thou they can't legally fire me due to that it seams like they are trying to find another excuse to fire me.
I can't afford to lose my job due to being the main income earner in my house hold. I have a husband and daughter relying on me to support them .

Jan 05, 2016 11:22 PM

Is it possible to get an ongoing note from your doctor? I have one on my file that says i cant stay really late or do heavy lifting. You should be able to get one for morning shift, i dont know where you are but dont most places have a duty to accommodate?
As for getting people to believe you... good luck. My first manager had muscular distrophy (sp?) So he kinda got it, he had no clue about the fatigue though. He got transferred so now i have a young and eager to please manager who has never had any medical problems which isnt going to work out in my favor. One of the union reps here has told me what some of my coworkers have said about me and my being sick and none of it is supportive or nice in any way.
I was told by the union rep (the only person here that is supportive) to document absolutely everything. He said to log my day, my foods, exercise, even bowel movements and keep that all somewhere so that if we end up in court i have proof that i document my life. He said to log all conversations with management and supervisors and even certain coworkers. His reasoning was that if they are looking to discredit my character and try to fire me for something then i needed proof that they were already treating me unfairly. My bosses boss has said several offhand rude comments regarding my illness that i have documented with a list of witnesses. I will also not have a closed door conversation without either someone there to witness or recording it.
Sorry you are going through this too

Jan 05, 2016 11:27 PM

Ya the problem with taking doctors notes into my work is I work with mentally disabled adults and my fear is that I will get fired because my boss thinks I'm not capable of completing my daily work duties. I feel like if my boss knew the extent of what is really going on with my health she will really try to find a way to fire me. And with my work I can't have pain killers so that dosent help at all

Jan 05, 2016 11:41 PM

I maintain air traffic control systems so i definitely understand the no meds and fear of keeping the job because it's safety related.
I would think about getting one for day shift if you can, some situations might not allow it. My union contract says that overtime, shift work and being on call must be equally distributed so if I take that type of note in they will have me working in a different department with less than half the pay in less than a week. I dont take the 16 hour shifts for overtime (way too long for me), i come in on days off so that they cant say im not picking up overtime shifts. I have a lot of one day weekends.
My doctor said he would back me againt the company, but if it came to wrongful dismissal (which it would be, they would have to pay you out if they wanted you to leave and you would have to agree) I would need a lawyer and be prepared to fight. The union rep said the same thing.
Best of luck. Im sure if work knew how much time i spent on this app I'd get fired (im at work right now)

Jan 05, 2016 11:46 PM

Ya hopefully once I get insurance again I can find a solution. It's just hard being the main bread winner in the house. I work 60 to 70 hr weeks. At least I have the hour restrictions from the doc so I can only work 10 hr shifts when I didn't have it I was being scheduled 15 to 20 hr shifts. And we don't get breaks so ya..

Jan 05, 2016 11:51 PM

I hope you figure something out soon with the insurance. 8 hours is hard enough, i cant imagine regularly doing 10s. My max is 12.
Isnt 20 hour days illegal?

Jan 05, 2016 11:53 PM

Probably and I'm pretty sure it's illegal that I work 10 hr shifts with no breaks but I don't have the money or energy to start a big hubbub about it with lawyers.

Jan 06, 2016 12:27 AM

Have you talked to human resources? Are you the only one they are trying to make quit by overworking?

Jan 06, 2016 7:26 AM

Hr is my bosses husband. So ya. I work for a small company so I don't have the same resources and what not as a big company

Jan 06, 2016 8:30 AM

I used to be a Regional Training Manager and General manager of a restaurant. I had to work 12-14 hr days 6 days a week. Unfortunately we were working managers who actually did all the work. I did this for 6 yrs until finally I could not move! My boss was sympathetic but eventually I had to quit, I truly believe that it caused my system so much trama, plus I had 2 heart implants put in, that my body just shut down. My son says that job killed me...and in a way it's true. Now everything I loved to do...gardening, crafts etc I can't do anymore. Good luck with your bosses...because people who don't have fibromyalgia don't understand at all.

Jan 06, 2016 9:43 PM

Do you have FMLA paperwork in place?

Jan 06, 2016 9:44 PM

No I can't take any kind of leave I can't afford it

Jan 06, 2016 9:49 PM

Google FMLA... It is beneficial for anyone working with chronic illness and pain. With this in place your employer must do everything in their power to accommodate your "disability", if you are fired, you can take legal action under the disability act. This gives you up to 60 unpaid leave days a year... It can be used all together or spaced out. All you need is a doctor that will support your condition. It protects people like us who are trying to stay in the work force, but have trouble because we deal with chronic illness. Please... Just google it... Wishing you all the best :)

Jan 07, 2016 10:14 AM

My employer have gone for medical capability dismissal. I wasn't expecting to go back to work anyway, so they ended my contract after 15years. They were not understanding at all and made me feel horrible for 2years I was really ill.

Jan 07, 2016 10:16 AM

Fmla isnt just for leave of absence, it protects your job. Fmla is amazing!

Jan 07, 2016 10:54 AM

Exactly Melissa1981 :)

Jan 07, 2016 2:49 PM

I know when you take FMLA you have to be careful with your employer when I was on FMLA HR told me I had to keep in touch with my department manager for job security on my condition and when that FMLA expired I will need to apply for another one so when it got close for me to apply for another one my doctor kept me out another 4 week so as I was out they separate me but that's was okay they told me I was out for a year that I had to go on long-term disability because I stay out too long so I have been out of work since 2013 so be careful cause they will tried to get rid of you

Jan 07, 2016 2:50 PM

You are more protected with FMLA than without... You do need to read up on it though

Jan 07, 2016 2:53 PM

Yes I know but when you get back you have to be careful with them if you not fully recover

Jan 07, 2016 2:54 PM

Yes absolutely... That is why we must educate ourselves on the ins and outs of it all.

Jan 07, 2016 2:56 PM

Yes because just like you said if don't read the full contact they think they can say anything to you

Jan 07, 2016 3:00 PM

Reading your contract is a must I use to carry mine every where I go at work when they come at me I asked them show me where this and that in the contract LOL

Jan 07, 2016 3:07 PM

Yes it is... They will try to get through any loop hole... My job has been reprimanding me for being a couple mins late... Literally... 1 to 3 minutes... When I turned in my paperwork I had the doctor make a note that due to my pain... Mornings are extremely hard for me. So I told them... They could add up my mins and apply it to the FMLA time allotted. They obviously weren't happy about this... I struggle every single day to get out bed and get moving. To be honest... Most days I just want to call out, but I am the sole breadwinner... I have bills and people relying on me to survive. I have multiple health conditions and my job really could not care less. I had to do something to protect myself.

Jan 10, 2016 12:56 PM

I haven't been reprimanded for anything but they keep scheduling me extra shifts so I'm working 50 -70 hr weeks instead of 40hr weeks which makes me think they are just trying to get me to quit

Jan 10, 2016 12:59 PM

Is it mandatory for you to work overtime??? Is it in your job description??? Because you can have you doctor state that you cannot work those extra hours, if it's not mandatory.

Jan 10, 2016 1:04 PM

No its not mandatory. I have a doc note saying I can't work over 10 hrs is a day because they were scheduling me like 15-20 hr shifts. I don't have insurance right now so I can't go to the doc at all

Jan 10, 2016 1:04 PM

To get another note

Jan 10, 2016 1:06 PM

Gotcha... That's not good!!! You need that doctor to back you up!!!

Jan 10, 2016 1:09 PM

Ya he wasn't very helpful anyways. I have yet to find a doc that belives that fibro is as bad as we say it is

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